Truthsearcher said-----"I guess the label "parent" has labeled me as a pariah."
Although I am not trying to speak for everyone, if you read other threads, you will notice that certain trolls, usually posting as anonymous, always stir things up, regularly slander people posting her, never support their positions, refuse to supply facts for their position, are always extremely secretive, and label program survivors as liars every chance they get. Motives of such individuals are highly suspect, and so I believe many people here get very "defensive" if someone comes across the way I just described. Not saying you are these things mind you, just trying to shed some light on why you might feel as though you've been labled as a "pariah parent."
That said, I can say from personal experience here, that it is extremeny frustrating when a parent comes along, talks about how great these programs are, and absolutely refuses to listen to the other side. I for one am very sensitive and react strongly to such individuals because I KNOW how horrifying many of these places can be. Maybe this comes across as hostile sometimes, maybe it doesn't.
Again, not trying to speak for everyone, but it's clear that posters here have extremely strong feelings about programs or else the would be here. And their feelings are valid, including mine and yours, and even the feelings of the "hostile ones." BTW, there are plenty of parents here that get quite a lot of good feedback.