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Nihilanthic:
Not everyone is appreciative of that as youd think they would be, Karen.
Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach him to use the Net and he won't bother you for weeks.
--Anonymous
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Nonconformistlaw:
Was this what you were responding to Nihilanthic?, when Deborah said----
"They know his limitations, in terms of dealing with reality. They just smile and settle for a less-than authentic relationship with him. Something the programs did teach them."----

If so, that makes sense to me...because its really tough to live with that overactive "gift of awareness" forced upon me by Straight, that enabled me, and I assume many others, to see a crappy parent for what they really are. There's a lot of pain that comes with the truth of what Deborah said, and no amount of time erases it...its always there. In my case, I just have done the best I could with a less-than-authentic parent incapable if dealing with reality.

Deborah:
Nope, haven't read 'The Bleachers'. Could've been a 'coach' dad. Judging by the dad's tone, I do think my original perception, that it was an act of punishment, was accurate.

If it were a coach dad, that just wouldn't be right. If Jr doesn't posses the desire to be at the 'top of his game', he should be allowed to be and average player, or be allowed to join band or shop or whatever activity interests him.

I spend a lot of time at that park. I saw another dad coaching his two sons the other day, and it didn't bare any resemblence to this. He was not barking orders in an angry tone. He was throwing passes and giving them sons tips. IMO, that's coaching, and an example of spending quality time together.

BuzzKill:
//Not everyone is appreciative of that as youd think they would be//

If you were responding to me, I wasn't saying any one appreciates it.
I was just saying thats what it made me think of - a coach working the but off his kid.
Excepting jocks and Marine wannabes - I don't think this would work with the average teen. I feel pretty sure, most would tell this dad where to go, and what to do when he gets there.
As for weather even the jocks appreciate it - you might want to read the above mentioned book.

BuzzKill:
Well in case you'd like a book review -
it is written from the perspective of a high school foot ball player whos all grown up now.
He hates his coach.
He and the other players witnessed the coach work a kid to death, running him up and down the bleachers.
The coach was much like this dad (and a lot of them are)but he had a winning team that the boys were proud to be on.
The coach had died and the narrator and the other players were returning to town for the funeral.
Because they loved the coach.

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