I was going to go into one of Karens earlier posts, but that's alreayd been done more or less.
I just have a few questions and comments...
One - why do you tell us specific things that are pretty blatantly abusive or based on 'breaking down' (humiliation, loss of hope for esacpe, fear, anxiety, and what not) and then say "its not about that"?
ESPECIALLY in a forum full of people who were in such places, WORKED in such places, and some very well read up parents and advocates?
For instance, that a camp is "not about loss of priviladges, its about loss of DISTRACTIONS!". Thats neither here nor there, that is a SPIN. You lose tons of priviladges and comforts, and 'distractions', but its neither consentual nor does it address that one mans comfort is another mans distraction.
That's part of why some here, such as myself, get frustrated wtih you. For example, I can NOT sleep without white noise, period. I have to have a fan! Sleeping outside would drive me insane, but I'd just be told I need to 'tough it out' or whatever, or 'I CHOSE TO BE THERE' (even though someone else signed off on my nonconsentual placement and I can't very well file a writ of habeas corpus considering the camp would have to provide me a lawyer or mail a letter to one for me, and we know how likely that is!) and obviously I'd be on someone else's schedule, or 'structured environment'. I couldn't relieve myself, bathe, or eat when I want, and a lot of people need that to improve themselves and heal from a lot of things done to them... not everyone needs to get controlled and broken down, and we all know how much they hate making exceptions, right?
Hell, I've yet to see a shred of evidence loss of control and freedom such as 'structure' puts on people is actually good for a damned thing except making it easier for an institution to do things... and if these kids have problems, then it is 100% about them!
At any rate, your SPIN on things like "impact letters" which are so blatantly there to instigate an emotional reaction (why the hell did they use the word IMPACT, Karen? Common sense please...) kind of makes people get distanced from you, because you can't try to dodge specifics, finally tell them, then spin them when everyone here is more than capable of thinking for themself, and more than informed enough to do so.
As much as I'm in court I can appreciate the 'skill' of spinning and arguing things, but none of this is new and you're hardly going to out-spin the peer-reviewed psychotherapeutic medical community from your position as an attourney with a program's oh-so-typical boilerplate.
And at any rate this isn't about winning an arguement for yourself, its about quacks running around hurting kids and making a killing in the process, or at best, doing basically nothing but warehousing them while they grow up and claiming to have created it... and making a killing.