This post is me finishing up my previous post(8 posts up)........
The reason why Programs use the Battered Woman Syndrome(BWS) or thought-reform model and accept kids with issues like depression, behaviors such as game-addition, behavior caused by parental or sexual abuse, homosexuality, and eating disorders is simple... Money.. Programs make money by enrolling as many kids as possible and keeping them as long as possible. Hiring educated counselors and staff cost money, money that would come out of the programs profit so they don't hire educated, qualified professionals.
"Tough-love" therapy is the "enzyte" of options offered to parents with troubled teens.
"Tough-love" therapy promises the results that the more traditional therapies will not. However
"Tough-love" therapy is a silver bullet made out of foil paper, it makes claims that it can't live up to.
The "supporting of the program" as a requirement to succeed in the program is necessary for the program to appear as though it's affective in lieu of objective evidence supporting that claim. Most professionals believe that the
Tough-love approach is ineffective and counter intuitive to it's stated goal of improving the behavior of a child, and even makes bad behavior worse. Despite this fact, desperate parents are willing to accept the frivolous claims offered by
"Tough-love" programs.
Children also believe that these programs where necessary for them to change their behavior, partially because believing this is part of the program and because many kids do get better. However kids doing well post-program is somewhat misleading. Most kids would be doing fine whether they were in a program, or not, because kids grow up. The change that comes with maturity is great and can make bad kids into upstanding adults. I'm sure most parents who send their kids off to
"Tough-love" programs can look back and see a radical change in their life during the teen years and again once they became parents. The teen-help industry does not acknowledge this fact and society peddles the fallacy that kids today are the worst generation of all time. According to Szalavitz
Statistics show today's teen is less likely to have unsafe sex or experiment with alcohol and most drugs than teens 20 years ago
LINKHowever parents still believe that their "problem child" is headed towards ruin and, in ever increasing numbers, ship their children(and money) off to
"Tough-love" camps to save them from a paper tiger.
It's true that some kids do need therapy and are headed towards ruin, but boot-camps and wilderness programs don't offer real therapy. This is evident in the fact that they claim to be able to fix just about anything and hire untrained staff, in most cases, the owners being untrained themselves. True therapy asks why,
"Tough-love" programs say "you will obey or else". Well that sums up my 2 cents... I hope that more parents will act, not out of desperation, but out of factually based truths. Your child may need help but anyone offering the magic answer is not the answer to your child's behavior...