Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Brat Camp
Typical Day at Sagewalk
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-07-30 06:38:00, Anonymous wrote:
"My husband and son just got back from a rigorous group camping and canoeing trip. They really enjoyed it and we plan on more trips. The only piece you suggested that we're missing is the month-long outdoor/wilderness ("non-therapeutic") experience but we have a place in mind that sounds appropriate if that is the path we decide to take.
It is exhausting, sometimes downright hellish, but it just makes so much more sense to work things out at home. We have always been a close, loving family and we will NOT give up on our son. He has been dealt an alcoholic, drug-abusing gene pool, as well as other mental health issues that have made him more prone to drug abuse, and our sometimes too-flexible parenting hasn't helped, but we are in this together and will fight it through.
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:nworthy: :nworthy: :nworthy: :nworthy: :nworthy: :nworthy:
Please don't give up on your son! He will know what you did for him when he is older, believe me. :smile:
Antigen:
--- Quote ---On 2005-07-30 07:31:00, Anonymous wrote:
"'Sorry, I don't understand what you mean by "trepanation." And as for giving him "speed," we relucantly agreed to try Adderall to help him with his ADHD.
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Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to throw stones. I don't presume to know anywhere near enough about you, your son or the rest of the situation to tell you what to do. I do, however, know of some common pitfalls when dealing w/ the helping industry.
I have a daughter who has a serious physical ailment requiring ongoing (probably lifelong) medical attention. She's seen at clinic from time to time by a tag team of some of the finest physicians on the plane (no joke, they're world renowned in their field) While I like and respect them all, my favorite is the old guy who is the primary researcher on the team. He's the one who will come into the room, look over the meds list and start asking questions directed at reducing that list. Very often, by the time we land on his rotation, there are meds and therapies going on that conflict w/ each other.
That's pretty much my context for reference when I hear about amphetamines and anxiety. If the meds are working, great! But what's wrong w/ using cannabis if it helps too? Aside, of course, from the fact that (at the moment) it's illegal. Most medical pros who are familiar w/ the effects and research on cannabis agree that it is not addictive. So it's hard to understand why you'd have your son treated for cannabis addiction, unless someone's pulling your leg on that one.
Here's a link on trepanation:
http://www.trepanationguide.com/
I'm being snide here. But I'm trying to make a point. There really are reasonably inteligent, successful people who actually believe that you can inprove your mental health by drilling a hole in your skull. I find that just exactly as compelling as those reasonably inteligent, successful people who believe that forced behavior mod is good for troubled kids.
It is wrong to leave a stumbling stone in the road after it has tripped you.
Hands Out Light
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Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-07-30 09:20:00, Antigen wrote:
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Here's a link on trepanation:
http://www.trepanationguide.com/"
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That is very disturbing. :scared:
Anonymous:
I don't disagree with what anyone is saying--and if marijuana was legal and could be injested without smoking it, and if it was regulated for quality, etc. I would be all for him using it. He has said that it makes him feel normal. (Smoking it or cigarettes for that matter will kill him, sooner or later. We lost my father-in-law at age 52 from smoking-induced cancer and that's yet another reason I don't want him smoking anything.) But he's already in the legal system (arrested for possession); he's already been suspended from school for possession, and the reality is that it's NOT legal now--so we have to live with the reality.
I totally agree that we and other parents focus too much on the negative, are too serious, and need to lighten up. I just get anxious because I know where he could be heading, given the fact that we have seen a lot of friends' lives ruined due to drug/alcohol use.
But in the end, he has to make the decisions that will shape his life. We know that. We are just trying to give him the guidance and tools we think he needs. We are also aware that we need to back off, and we are doing that, so he can make his own choices and live with the consequences of his own choices, good or not so good.
I really appreciate all of your thoughts--thanks!
Anonymous:
Parents- you would be better off getting advice from http://www.strugglingteens.com than from here. This site is a militaristic group of disgruntled teens and young adults (with a few disgruntled adults thrown in who can't get past their teens) and the advice is not reliable.
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