On 2005-06-04 05:06:00, Anonymous wrote:
"I am not concerned about my privacy or posting I am concerned though for the vulnerable folks and their postings - if you have a beef with Struggling Teens and what they do - that is fine you are entitled to that, but the parens who know no better or differently it is not fair to take it out on them is all I am saying - they don't know they are desperate and if you google anything it all leads to the same site.
So this is where they turn.
They hate me there trust me.
Andrea"
Sometimes, "Why does everybody hate my guts and villify me for doing this?" is the only way to reach someone who's allowed themselves to be convinced that something truly monstrous is "the right thing to do."
The parents are "vulnerable"???
Oh, wah! They're supposed to be the adults.
Does it hurt? Well, fine, as long as they bring their kid home, let the *parents* be the ones to spend years in therapy, "Doctor, I sent my child to be abused and I paid them to do it, doctor. Doctor, am I bad? Am I a bad person? How could I ever have done such a thing, doctor?"
Maybe if I was twenty I'd have some sympathy. Maybe I'd have some even if I was thirty. I'm thirty-eight. Being a grownup means shielding your kids from the things they're not ready to face yet until they *are* old enough to face them. But not shielding them from too much. It's a constant tighrope act.
As most of the rest of you know.
Life frequently sucks, and often the Knight in Shining Armor doesn't arrive to save the day and evil wins. Or the Knight arrives and he's good at shining armor up but not real good at picking "the right side." Life frequently just sucks, and even if you do your best you can die badly. Sometimes there isn't any silver lining in the clouds.
It's an adult's job to look that in the face and then tell the child to put his tooth under his pillow so the Tooth Fairy can come.
So they're "vulnerable." Yeah, life sucks sometimes. If you chose to be a parent, shielding your kid from that---shielding slowly and progressively less and less, but never too little---until she's grown, herself, is your job. Even if it does sometimes suck.
Okay, generic you, but not you, Andrea, "you" time:
I know it's easier said than done, but sometimes if you don't hear other people say what you're doing is really bad, you miss the point that you really need to change.
Anyway, the adults already know all this, and the kids won't understand it.
Timoclea
