Peninsula Village

[Anonymous]

hey i read what i wrote, i didn't mean we should teach teens drinking
only that they should be taught that they really can't  drink that much without getting incapacitated?

[3xsaSeedling]

A friend of mine went in this Barnes and Noble?
and this girl came over to help him and
he asked for Henry Miller's Tropic of Cancer?
She called him a sexist pig and cursed at him
for reading a book that used the "C" word so much and
threw a Frappucino at him.  

About PV.  It sucks, okay?

Then there was this other guy in Barnes and Noble who worked as a janitor?  and the same girl kept looking at him, giving him the creeps.  
She said he looked like an old pimp?  One who exploited women and
had to be a sexist pig, and he deserved to be cleaning up the Frappucino she
threw in the other sexist pig's mean face?

PV smelled like a sexist pig, okay?

Then a nun went into the Barnes and Noble, and the same girl poured a venti of steaming fresh brew down the back of her habit?  For being submissive to the will of the sexist pigs who rule the church.  Then she called her the C word.  Twice.

PV?  Oh yeah.  It sucked?

::rocker:: Is it a 'bad thing' that I find this VERY entertaining? ::rocker::
My bi-polar neice works@Barnes&Noble :exclaim:

I was cheering for you  Sorry for the wrong impression.

[ZenAgent]

i will talk to anyone that will try to shut PV down and combat this horrific aspect of society that is legally allowed to exist in our country
i am not very trusting but i will do what i can
please post the number
again like I said

I can't post it, unfortunately, but I'll send it to you.  Keep in mind it can't be posted for now, unless when I speak with the..."people" on Tuesday they give a thumbs up on it.  I would imagine they want some control over how much input they get for now.

[3xsaSeedling]

I don't think most men mean it this way, I think it's just a joking way of talking, but there is a reason that there are sexual harassment laws in the work place.
like it's illegal for a man to tell jokes that are graphically sexual at work even if they are not directed at a women
it's because it makes a threatening, even if it is not meant that way, environment and it tends to demean women as sex objects
totally demean them, much worse then Barbie,
I'm still traumatized by her chest size, mine don't look like that,
oh my God?

Yes, some people tend to use it (the trend in humor you mentioned) as a license to be blatant pigs and sexually harass women. Not so cool.

I compare it to racism because it fits

Yep, sexism & racism seem to go hand in hand...

That's 'cause it's ALL just plain prejudice.

[Froderik]

That's 'cause it's ALL just plain prejudice.

Yes, indeed.

[Anonymous]

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I really did work eleven days in a row at the department store
And I worked twelve hours in one day
The eleven days was the most extreme time and unusual
Seven to eight was not really unusual though
About once a month
I would be asked to work well over the five day work week
the eleven days were proof of how understaffed they were
and how they overworked the staff they did have
the only other full time employee�s brother, who she was taking care of, had died of liver cancer
all the other employees were part time,
although they worked closer to full time schedules
my manager had planned a vacation at the same time as the other employees brother happened to die and I was the only one there to pick up the days
some overtime would have been nice, but as the clock starts back over at zero on Sunday, whether you have had a day off or not, you don�t work over the forty hour work week
I was actually told to go home half way through my eleventh day because I would have gone into overtime, they never ever pay you overtime
They tell you to go home if you work over the forty hour work week
Which is the only way you get over time
This just means you have to work forty hours between Sunday and Saturday because on Saturday the clock starts back over at zero whether you have had a day off or not
Thought I�d repeat that again
the day I worked twelve hours, was the day after Thanksgiving super sale day,
they had us come in at 4:30am and instead of letting us go home at say 1:00pm they kept us till 5:00pm
there were many times I worked over the normal eight hour work day
this is normal for salaried employees at desk jobs of course
but any job where you stand the whole time, it is tiring

the store makes a great deal of money, as does the one where I work now
they tell us what there sales are and such and they do great
It�s just another way to keep costs low.
It was really tiring
It was a physically demanding job,
I worked in a busy section of the women�s clothing department
we moved tons literally of clothes,
Again all the clothes are made overseas in places South America or China
they mark the stuff down till they are practically giving it away
And they move a lot of clothes that way
The store was always really crammed
You could barely walk for all the racks
People would complain, people in wheel chairs forget it
No way through
Management allowed for no standing around
And they are quite harsh about it
They are understaffed so you are constantly really busy
And you get barked at a lot
No matter how hard you work
Again management style is basically we can replace you at anytime
Retail jobs too there is always some hidden situation
where you are required to come in early to do markdowns
or stay till 2 in the morning doing inventory
I worked at Bath & Body Works and every month or so we had to do floor sets
Floor sets required us to rearrange everything in the store to change with the seasons
There are a lot of seasons at Bath & Body Works
About two a month it seemed like
So we would have to stay till two am to do it
It used to make me really nervous coming home at night because I lived alone then
My job now, I don�t get out till midnight
which leaves me tired of course
It�s depressing I guess to think that all the fun stuff at Bath & Body Works is set by exhausted college students getting paid 6.50 dollars and hour
who risk being mugged in the parking lot
But it�s even more depressing to think about the sweat shops in Guatemala or China where most of what you are wearing is made.
So anyway I�m not exaggerating
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I got this off the NC State Department of Labor's website
for those who live under a rock
the Department of Labor is a state agency
it just has a catchy name
rather like Child Protection Services
it backs up what I said
I've written to a bunch of local representative about it but no one has written me back hmmmm? I wonder why?

There are no wage and hour laws that limit the amount of hours that a person 18 years of age or older can work either by the day, week, or number of days in a row, or that require breaks for employees 16 years of age or older.
And an employer is free to adjust the hours of its employees regardless of what the employees are scheduled to work.
For example: To avoid having to pay time and one-half overtime pay for hours worked in excess of 40 in a workweek that is Sunday thru Saturday, an employer could adjust the hours of an employee who has already worked 34 hours by the end of a Thursday by requiring that the employee work only 6 hours on Friday and not work on Saturday at all regardless if the schedule had called for this employee to work 8 hours on Friday and Saturday.
Also, this may be done regardless if the employee agreed to this or not. An employer can make the scheduling or rescheduling of its employees hours worked as a condition of employment.

[Anonymous]

Do remember how I said a while back how so many people I work with at the book store have been told they are ADD and on drugs for it?
One of the people was this great guy in his sixties.
He was really nice, smart and had a degree he earned a long time before the doctor told him he was ADD.
Again this is a book store and most of these people love to read, but anyway.
This gentlemen seemed really healthy, fun and happy.
His general practitioner had told him he had ADD just a few years ago.
He was on Adderall though, which he thought helped him a lot.
He described it as a wonder drug.
It made him feel so much more alert, focused and awake.
The guy was in his sixties after all and we do work in retail.
No wonder he felt tired and a bit unfocused.
Otherwise the guy was thin, trim, rosy cheeked and all that.
Looked healthier than me, really.
Adderall was the amphetamine again.
This nice healthy looking guy just had a heart attack and died in his sleep.
I don't know what his medical history was, but I do know he looked in better shape than most people.
If the Adderall were to have a bad effect on older people, a heart attack might be the way you go.
Really sad though, he was such a nice man and he had a big family and such.

[Anonymous]

there are two things
first off a while back someone said something about wanting to take out heads of programs or something and I quiped back about peaceful protest and all that
I don't think people reading this understood what was going on there
I am, like most victims of horrific abuse, terrified of my abuser PV
do any of the other survivors have the dreams where they are running away from them often?
therefore, when I saw someone post something like that I thought that they were PV
trying to incriminate people,  
 this is normal I think especially in such an unpleasant forum as this one where you might actually encounter the monsters
I don't know if it is good for me really to do this,
but I know it is not easy
it also is hard not to take the opportunity to tell that monster what you think of them and that they can't get you any more,
 also to take the opportunity to tell others what monsters they are!

If you say something though, understandably enough, like I wish the guy who raped me was dead
this is a normal response from those who have been horrificly abused
But if someone out of a program says something like that
they can be seen as a danger to themselves or others and they can come get you
that is what i was thinking ok
otherwise i would not have been so insensitive in my response
I am sorry in my PTS and terror of PV I miss read the situation
but if you are a survivor of a program or of something horrible then of course you feel that way just don't tell anyone or they can come get you, how about that!

Also I think some people on here are confused as to my reality
I am a victim of horrific abuse
I am not some little college student spouting feminist rants as hearsay
i have to think though,
given the level of sexual violence I HAVE faced,
like it has happened
I was there I know how it works
and I am trying to tell you about it,
that perhaps those sophmoric little,
you made them little
they are talking rather loudly as I see it,
college girls
are also coming from a place of sexual violence
perhaps they have also seen some of it and that is why they relate to it
certainly feminism has done some good in the society

the stuff I write about is true
it happened to me
all of it ok
i've even omitted a lot of stuff because I have enough trouble getting people to believe this much
like my female college advisor, who was the director of our school play
I was a theater and communications major to start
who had us put on the "Rocky Horror Picture show"
which sounds ok out of context
but we were all up in front of the whole school in underwear talking about sex and swingers
which we didn't really get
and my then female college professor started sleeping with my 19 year old friend
which we thought ok I guess,
we study the Greeks and Romans a lot
like Sapho what ever,
no matter the women was 40
so then it comes out, that my college advisor has my 19 year old friend sleeping with her and her 40 year old boyfriend?
the women used to do this strange hit on you in a very intimidating manner thing?
and she had me infront of the whole school in my underwear talking about swingers
in our school play

or do you want to hear about a typical date years ago
when I was a 19 year old dating
since i am just spouting feminist crap
and i don't have any facts or meaning
and this isn't true or my life
a guy from college asks me to a party
he lives in a big house across from campus
with roomates, but isn't a frat boy
i would have normally taken a roomate of my own
but the roommates and I are fighting because
the guy I have been dating
the roommate keeps trying to jump him
and jump him means how it sounds
she comes out in a jacket and underwear and sits in his lap
true story got to love roomates
so the date guy
it's a big party I go alone
there are many people, some I know
and a keg
i drink beer all night slowly so I'm pretty tipsy
we are in the dining room
and I'm drunk and half asleep really
and he wants to make out
I'm mad at the guy I really like who the roommate flirts with so
I'm ok with making out with him
but he's trying to stick his hand up my dress
he want's me to have sex with him
he keeps trying to get me to go up stairs with him
and he's getting really nasty
like overbearing and bitchy
and there are other people there and he's trying to take off my top or something
and i'm not that drunk?
 I start to sober up
he's doing everything really overbearing and forceful to get me to sleep with him
and I'm like what is this the first date
and your going to browbeat me into sex
boy am I glad we didn't take shots
but I didn't say that
I'm just like I'm going to go get something to drink in the kitchen
like coffee
so I come back soberish
and he tries to get me to have sex with him a few more times
and it's early morning by then and all of a sudden he's not nice at all any more
in fact he's nasty and mean because he realizes I'm not going to sleep with him that night
and he gets really mean and bitchy and I drink the rest of my coffee and drive home
and this is a guy who I'm in college with, just another college kid
and this is a true story
I don't know what it means
I think it means I'm glad I didn't take shots?

but the guy was weird as hell
and I've had that happen a couple + times as a younger girl dating
It was exactly like I said too
I find life is so odd it's best just to tell it like it is and not embelish
you can't embelish as weird as reality is
and I'm not picking on men either
as perhaps my swinging greek love professor story illustrates
the female roommate who hit on the guy I like
also came on to me pretty aggressivly a few times
I also know very nice gay people
i still can't figure out if she was gay or what?
so any way there are creepy ones in every genus
again all true
sorry
i'm not giving an opinion here
i'm just telling you first person what i saw
 
But the guy again
what is up with that
why does he have to throw a stupid fit and try to stomp his stupid foot
and browbeat me into sleeping  with him right then
like why not wait a month or two?
if he kept at it
I was a drunk college kid
why act like a agressive nut ball?
and put your self in danger, of being accused of something like rape or assault?
it seems like rational rubbing two brain cells together
would beat out trying to bully a girl into it right then
guessing some of them not big on rational sense
it's amazing they get away with it
like the guy in my apartment building who attacked me
I thought he's not going to do anything
he will be afraid of going to jail
but he wasn't!

because you are not in my shoes
you don't know
I'm not arguing politics here?
I am telling you about my life
I live this every fucking day ok

and I am sorry if I sound clean cut and sweet
perhaps it is the influence of living with my mother,
for whom her 50's upbringing is alive and well
or that i am trying to combat the prejudice that people out of programs like PV face
I know how it feels to be looked down on ok?
and treated like you are disgusting dirt
I know how prejudice feels
I am trying to be as clean cut as possible so people don't look down on me and dismiss what I have to say
would you like me to swear like a sailor?
I can and do on occasion?
of course not in any sexually harassing way
because sexual bullying and hate speech
make life hard and frightening for me
and I hate them
because i hate being abused and scared

I don't know who the hell you think I am
but really I'm not exactly some sweet little late sixties collegate
with her panties in a bunch
not to mention those women changed a lot
for the better hippies rock and all that
I like how she is a stupid little women somewhat sexualized
with big eyes like prey who is kind of wimpy
I'm not stupid
like I know where danger is in life
and do I seem like someone who is wimpy?
as I tell the truth exactly like I have seen it?
despite threats and really nasty stuff?

I would like to leave you with one more story
it is the story of my fiance and the gun
my fiance went out and bought a gun
a few months before I left him
Now everyone liked my fiance
and treated him like everything he did was just great and normal
I'm always crazy and a bitch or something though
but everybody thought he was golden and charming
he had a good job,
he was apple pie
and love puppies kittens and his mom

but he spent 500.00 on a glock big heavy hand gun
don't know why
i was annoyed he spent that much money on it
because he was always yealling at me about money
but denial is not a river in egypt and
i just thought it was a hobby thing?
that's how everyone else treated it
like my mother when I told her
she reacted about the same to stories of his heavy drinking
and screaming at me all night
and belligerently arguing with everything I said
all the time
I think it seemed normal, because to me
that level of abuse and stress kind of is normal
I just sort of kept going?
but boy did he play with that gun a lot
how often do you need to clean a gun
twice a week at least I'm sure
he played this game where he ran around and shot people all the time too
it was an ok game
but it was the general atmosphere
 
and i might be "crazy"
and people like him and my parents use it to keep me in line

here is an example of a weekend with him
I would wake up late because we had been up really late
it's hard to sleep when someone is finishing off a twelve pack and a six pack
probably the second one or two that week
so any way I would wake up and he would already be up
because he didn't seem to suffer from hang overs as much
his drinking was never addressed as anything abnormal
except by me on occasion
like stop yelling at me your drunk
and when I finally did just put my foot down, i had been saying what was going on for a while, you drink and yell too much
but when I finally said and I'd already moved out
ok you drink too much and you yell at me when you drink and unless you stop that's it
he tried to get hard core abusive revenge
he picked up the first creepy women he met and slept with her
and went on and on about how great she was
and then just terrorized me for a while
it was so bad I'm not even going there
he was always overbearing
but he was also very attentive and loving?
in a really abusive way

but the average weekend
i would want to go for a walk in the mountains because we lived in beautiful Colorado
and he would get the gun, the stupid glock big hand gun
I asked him if he needed a license for it and he said no
and we would get out of the car walk for a bit
he would shoot a few clips out of the gun
it's legal in the national parks there
he would be talking and nice the whole time
all very normal
i didn't love him?
or even like him
but he was like my family  
like he was the only person I really knew?
it was my home?
I wanted to like him and I wanted it to be ok.

so any way  
i'm not some little girl repeating
the democrat party line
my feminist teacher instilled in me
everything I write i have lived
and it is hard for me to talk about it
I'm sorry if don't go any where alone with him
sounds sophmoric to you
but to me it would have saved me a lot of trouble
I'm also not against guns
i plan to buy myself a 40 acre ranch in Colorado
and hunt elk to keep my grocery bill down
I also want great danes and an electric fence

I just don't like the gun in the hands of my fiance
as he cleans it for the third time that week near my head
in a threatening manner
do we see the difference and how I'm not the one responsible for politisizing and generalizing here

[Anonymous]

ps i am apologizing for sounding like a jackass again when whomever that person was expressed very ordinary really anger at PV
I thought he was PV trying to trap me so they could come and get me
PTS says what
this isn't as crazy as it sounds
people out of PV will tell you
danger to you self or others
even in a amorphous manner and
that's it they can fuck with you for a unpleasant while
i use the word unpleasant too
as a coping thing
to describe complete horror ok

i also really really hate it when people tell me I'm dangerous or crazy as an excuse to abuse me
while they act both dangerous and crazy
and clean a gun near my head
or abuse foster kids horribly
and so on
it's oh so much fun to be treated like the uni bomber
even if you really are a clean cut non bearded crazy eyed white upper middle class girl.
poor bearded crazied eyed people
i might be a little crazy eyed but anyway
programs tend to do that to you
i also really am nice to puppies and kittens and love my mom inspite of all this
don't even get me started on the dog and kitten holocaust at the pound
again though grr I'll kick your ass,
except as i am smart enough to not want an assault charge, and I find posturing stupid
I won't
it's fun to to live in a society that equates strength with being able to afford to take care of yourself
while you make seven dollars an hour working your ass off
live with unpleasant relatives
and try to finish college
i'm sorry and i understand this prejudice and I hate it ok
sorry i thought it was a PV trap

again i hear you, bi polar disorder commercials make me hopping mad
and i start railing at being treated like the uni bomber
while people clean guns near my head
and kill puppies and kittens and foster kids
sorry

[Anonymous]

hey i really don't feel that clean cut,
 is what i was saying too
i try to be, and i pull it off ok
but i don't feel like i do really?
i know i'm not the uni bomber
but people can mess with your head
as to making you feel like that is how you are seen
like let's see, PV treates you like you are the uni bomber?
 and it kind of gets stuck in your head
like i know i'm not, i'm just afraid that's how people see me?
again PTS says what?
and i don't even have facial hair
is all i was saying
i'm not picking on people that do, have facial hair
i think i was going back to how men probably face more of this then women do
and i clean up ok but i still feel the effects of that prejudice?

as for anyone on here that is PV
which some of you people are for sure
your monsters and you should be put in jail
for the horror you enflict on people
eventually people like you will have to find a new profession
wow that makes me as a survivor feel so much better
let's see,
most likely PV staff will never go to jail
of face any monetary punishment
the high level jerks will probably eventually
but every one else
will just fade away and get a new JOB!!!
great, justice is so not a farce in general
at least eventually laws perhaps will change
not to be cynical really

[Anonymous]

i'm just thinking maybe i called one of the foster kids the uni bomber by accident because i thought they were PV
ok?

[Froderik]

hey i really don't feel that clean cut,
 is what i was saying too
i try to be, and i pull it off ok
but i don't feel like i do really?
i know i'm not the uni bomber
but people can mess with your head
as to making you feel like that is how you are seen
like let's see, PV treates you like you are the uni bomber?
 and it kind of gets stuck in your head
like i know i'm not, i'm just afraid that's how people see me?
again PTS says what?
and i don't even have facial hair
is all i was saying
i'm not picking on people that do, have facial hair
i think i was going back to how men probably face more of this then women do
and i clean up ok but i still feel the effects of that prejudice?

"It's no measure of health to be well adjusted to a sick society."
(i forget who said this)

[Anonymous]

a lot of the people on here
are total pigs though
in fact all of it really has made no sense and been
so stupid and nasty and abusive
much like the rest of reality
probably PV for sure
or who cares
I'm done with this

[Anonymous]

thanks Froderik
i didn't mean you
you actually make sense
i posted the above before i read what you said

[Froderik]

i posted the above before i read what you said

...I know..