On 2005-10-19 12:26:00, ex-prisoner wrote:
"All my sirens and whistles and bells went off at this part:
"...the kid is faced with doing some hard work and he/she is actually running away from themselves and needs a little extra time to get to the next level. Some kids have run away emotionally before they enter the program."
Yeah, me too. But I think I've acquired the habit of tuning them out in order to be able to tolerate much of the discussion on this topic.
Running away from themselves, huh? Avoiding yourself? Cutting up your arms to deal with the intolerable pain of marijuana withdrawal, huh? (again, anon, sounds rediculous to most people now. Just wait. 20 years from now you'll be ashamed of yourself for believing such obvious bullshit.)
No, I wasn't running away from myself. I was running away from a parent who was a danger to me. I wasn't avoiding myself, I was avoiding other people who treated me badly.
Look, anon, here's a very simple, basic reality check you can do yourself. When the same trouble occures again and again, look to the individuals who have been at the scene of the crime all along. Forget the rediculous notion that you know something about teenagers. Teenagers are individual people. Some are shy, some agressive, some very intelligent and playful, others not so swift and given to a more serious demeanor. Some are honest to a fault, others charismatically desceptive. There is no such thing as The Teenaged Personality®. It doesn't exist. Teenagers are as unique and varied as the rest of us.
So, having taken that myth out of the equation, who seems always to be at the scene of the crime? The kids come and go. Few of them spend more than a year or two mixed up in the industry. It's the adult business owners who repeatedly give the same lame excuses to explain away why one after another after another till we're talking about hundreds or thousands of different individuals have responded in the same ways to THEM.
Yeah, right. They're all stricken w/ the very same nonsensical delusion, running away from what they need the most. Can't possibly be anything wrong with the usual cast of characters from whom they're running, huh?
Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die
-- Malachy McCourt