What you don't seem to realize, Anon, is that these behavior mod programs can be far more dangerous than letting the kid rage (as you put it) Never mind the pretty lies the brainwashed salesmen tell you.
You often hear that no one can force another to change their behavior or belifs. The person has to have the
will to change. That's not precisely true. You just have to break their will.
If you don't have the heart to do that to your own child (and I'm hoping you don't, though I've met some Program parents w/ a sadistic bent) then you have no business paying someone else to do it.
There is no sure fire, guaranteed way to force your kid to be and act like whatever your ideal my be. Anyone who tells you differently is not telling the truth. They mey believe it's true when they say it, even w/ all their hearts. But it still isn't true. You might just as well drink gallons of expensive magical mineral water. Your belief that it will make you well or smarter or whatever doesn't make it so. It just makes slick salesmen wealthy.
But, in this case, we're not talking about your personal choices w/ your own body. We're talking about a radical, often harmful, unproven "therapy" you inflict on your nearly grown child very much against their will.
You want to talk about legal and domestic nightmares? Walk a mile in my shoes! I never found a magical mystery cure when my daughter scared hell out of us. We just did exactly what I advise others to do. We kept the door open and, when she decided she'd had enough of the BS, she came back home. I don't know if the damage done is more or less than what she would have gotten in a program. I do know that 1) she was able to escape it the minute she decided to screw up the courage and sneak out w/ the psycho boyfriend was sleeping and 2) there's no confusion over who did what.
A student burst into his office. "Professor Stigler, I don't believe I deserve this F you've given me." To which Stigler replied, "I agree, but unfortunately it is the lowest grade the University will allow me to award."
--Professor Stigler