This conversation reminds me of a philosophy lesson in college about the "egocentric predicament" of man.
We all see ourselves at the center wherever we are and we judge others by our own experience without understanding the perspective of "the other."
The answer to this argument, and a good one it is, is that we live separate lives, are socialized differently, have diifferent experiences, and different biology and genetics, therefore, what applies to us - ie, the black-and-white projections such as "get over it" or "recovery from CEDU is very hard," usually do not apply to the other majority of individuals who fall within areas of gray. Often, for them, it is someting like "It really fucked me and my family up for a while, but I am doing my best now, and I can succeed because, God knows, I got through all that CEDU shit alive.
So in conclusion, don't be so arrogant as to believe that your reality is the same as the next fellow - just be empathetic and love one another.