I was talking to someone else privately and we got into the discussion about what kind of person does this, or is drawn to this kind of work.
I think it is important to understand in able to help other people avoid sending their children to programs like this. They do "get" something more than money out of it or they wouldnt keep starting the programs over and over again after they keep shutting them down.
There are also people out there who cannot accept that such "nice" people are operating these programs and if we got inside their heads a bit, understanding them could lead to more effective conversations when helping someone see just what it is that has happened to them.
I am NOT talking about sympathising when I say understanding. But understanding what it is you are dealing with from all angles is imparitive. I know it helped me to get inside the heads of my boogy men, it enabled me to see there would be no closure like I was looking for, no misunderstanding happened, and that this was done to me on purpose.
It also helped me because I was looking at their point of view with my own thought processes and expecting their reaction and motives to be like my own. Consequently I was always second guessing events. Once I realised just how they ticked, I knew I wasnt the one with the problem with more certainty and healing began.
KNOW YOUR BOOGYMAN!!!