I caught my son's girlfriend giving him Orall Sex

[Anonymous]

I caught my son in his room with his girlfriend. She must have came in through his bedroom window.I came to bring him some yoodles and a bottle of Sprite when I caught his girlfriend and him engaging in Oral Sex. I freaked out.He acted like it was no big deal. Said Oral Sex is NOT REALLY REAL SEX! I told him it sure as hell IS REALLY REAL SEX! How should I handle this?Should I just lay down punishent and move on? Or is there a better approach?

[Anonymous]

Hi,

  Well, how much have you talked with him about sex up to now?!  If you haven't much, that's where I suggest you start.
  I consider any sexual organ entering the body of another, SEX (whether it's mouth, or otherwise).
  Use this opportunity to have sit-down ADULT style discussion about the meanings, affects, reprecautions of what he's doing.

 Good luck.

[Anonymous]

oh, come on people the kids got the mentality of bill clinton for god's sake.  leave him alone, no body bothers bill anymore and look how he turned out.

just make sure he didn't save the dress and sweep this issue under the bed.

sounds like the yoodles turn into "his" noodles?

why did you freak?

[Anonymous]

::troll::

[Helena Handbasket]

On 2005-03-01 01:24:00, Anonymous wrote:

"::troll::"

And on the other hand, they can be quite amusing!  :rofl:

[Cynthia]

How old is your son? How long have they been dating? Is this a casual relationship, or are the truly in love.
If he is over 18, they treat each other with respect and love each other. Try to get that image out of your head and move on. It is pretty normal, too bad YOU has to SEE it.
Worse than that, think about your own parents. That is an image I don't ever want in MY head!
 If he is just a kid, say 14ish, ban her from the house. Be sure to tell HER yourself and WHY!
That seems to be the new attitude these days, that oral sex isn't really sex. Now that is a scary thought![ This Message was edited by: Llahsram on 2005-03-01 11:01 ]

[Nihilanthic]

Whats funny... is unless they have a STD youre probably getting more germs from their mouth than from their genitalia.

And at any rate, I'd talk to a psychologist about this before giving off any Bush/GOP/evangelical approved sex messages, because its bullshit. Age based on revolutions around the sun is asinine when people develop mentally and physically at different rates from one another.

Teaching safe sex works. Saying "NO" just makes them sneak, and when they ARE out on their own, they still dont know how to do it safely, so what have you really done? Helped YOURSELF, not the young adult.

Frankly, I'd be pleased they were doing oral instead of vaginal, because its a hell of a lot harder to get pregnant getting a BJ. I'd also be happy he has the social skills to find a girlfriend.

I believe that human beings arrive on this Earth wanting to know absolutely everything, and the best thing we can do as parents is to get out of the way -- just be there to let them know what opportunities are there
-- Dorothy Werner, media liaison for the National Homeschool Association

[Anonymous]

On 2005-02-28 19:47:00, Anonymous wrote:

"I caught my son in his room with his girlfriend. She must have came in through his bedroom window.I came to bring him some yoodles and a bottle of Sprite when I caught his girlfriend and him engaging in Oral Sex. I freaked out.He acted like it was no big deal. Said Oral Sex is NOT REALLY REAL SEX! I told him it sure as hell IS REALLY REAL SEX! How should I handle this?Should I just lay down punishent and move on? Or is there a better approach?"

Start giving him head yourself so he doesn't have to look for it from outside sources.  Buy him whiskey to keep him off of weed.

[Anonymous]

On 2005-03-01 15:52:00, Anonymous wrote:

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On 2005-02-28 19:47:00, Anonymous wrote:


"I caught my son in his room with his girlfriend. She must have came in through his bedroom window.I came to bring him some yoodles and a bottle of Sprite when I caught his girlfriend and him engaging in Oral Sex. I freaked out.He acted like it was no big deal. Said Oral Sex is NOT REALLY REAL SEX! I told him it sure as hell IS REALLY REAL SEX! How should I handle this?Should I just lay down punishent and move on? Or is there a better approach?"

Start giving him head yourself so he doesn't have to look for it from outside sources.  Buy him whiskey to keep him off of weed."

What a juvenile thing to say. What a DOPE! :wstupid:

[Anonymous]

what the fuck is "yoodles"?

also, chill out, it's a blow job. jeezus people. do you really expect teenagers not to follow their sexual desires?

your role here is not to lay down the law, give me a break it's a losing battle for god's sake has it been that long since you were a teenager? just make sure he knows the real deal about safe sex, pregnancy, and treating people with respect.

or, if you are really determined to keep them apart i suggest you get up a posse of townsfolk and tar and feather the little delinquents. right.  :roll:

maybe if you treat him like an adult -- quit bringing him yoodles like he's a little boy, and knock on his door & get an okay before you enter -- he will be sure to act like one, in appreciation of your respect.

[Anonymous]

i really wouldn't worry to much, unless he had her by the ears.  like everyone else said; as long as he respects her and doesn't de-ear her, i'd say it's okay for "yoodles" to play with "noodles".  please remember to stress safe sex also.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunatly, you cannot control your son.  There are rules that you need to set up around your house though.  While punishing him for this action is not in my recommendation, the fact that his disrespected you knowing that you would not be ok with him doing it in your house that you bust your butt to maintain is worth consequence in my eyes.  I'm only 19 here, I'm not a parent nor am I in a place to begin a family right now.  I am not telling you how to be a parents, and I AM saying that it is OK to freak out over somthing like that.  I can only image what it would be like to walk in on my child.. becuase it doesn't matter how old they are, they are still your child and that is how you are going to see them... even when they are 30 years old.  Let him know that you are not in support of his sexual behaviors, and while he very well might blow this off, be clear this is not about getting him to do what you want him to do/or not do for that matter.  This is about creating a respectfull enviorment in your house and making a stand for what you beleive.  The next time he asks somthing of you, by all means let him know that you felt disrespected by his actions and that you have no reason to make due of his request.  Just so you know, I am not Mormon or anything like that, a couple years back, I was doing much MUCH worse things than your teen is right now.  I am on a straight path now,  I am just giving you my personal input.

I hope this helps you.

Steve

[Fred Garvin]

On 2005-02-28 19:47:00, Anonymous wrote:

 Said Oral Sex is NOT REALLY REAL SEX! I told him it sure as hell IS REALLY REAL SEX! How should I handle this?Should I just lay down punishent and move on? Or is there a better approach?"

Of course oral sex is sex.  I get paid large sums of money for my oral talents.  Can I offer you my business card?  I think I can be of some help here.

[ehm]

On 2005-03-01 18:03:00, Anonymous wrote:

"what the fuck is "yoodles"?



also, chill out, it's a blow job. jeezus people. do you really expect teenagers not to follow their sexual desires?



your role here is not to lay down the law, give me a break it's a losing battle for god's sake has it been that long since you were a teenager? just make sure he knows the real deal about safe sex, pregnancy, and treating people with respect.



or, if you are really determined to keep them apart i suggest you get up a posse of townsfolk and tar and feather the little delinquents. right.  :roll:



maybe if you treat him like an adult -- quit bringing him yoodles like he's a little boy, and knock on his door & get an okay before you enter -- he will be sure to act like one, in appreciation of your respect."

That's what I would do. :tup:

[Anonymous]

On 2005-03-03 09:08:00, Fred Garvin wrote:

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On 2005-02-28 19:47:00, Anonymous wrote:


 Said Oral Sex is NOT REALLY REAL SEX! I told him it sure as hell IS REALLY REAL SEX! How should I handle this?Should I just lay down punishent and move on? Or is there a better approach?"

Of course oral sex is sex.  I get paid large sums of money for my oral talents.  Can I offer
 you my business card?  I think I can be of some help here."

  CLASSIC Fornits "answers".  Parents should NEVER come to this forum for advice or to ask questions, this shit is what they get.  You people are pathetic and I PRAY you don't have children of your own --- as you'd be screwing up their lives!