Chi:I agree a visit and a sitdown away from the staff is warranted. Unfortunately, by doing so I tip my hand and am no longer able to get any help or answers from the people there until i get her out and make some new plans for her. to buck a rule and go see her is the same as saying you have no faith in the program. they will make it difficult for me and her, i fear.
Ginger:
See, that would be enough for me right there!
Me:
Please Chi - pay attention to this. Ginger is right. This is a major red flag. I know exactly where you are coming from - been in exactly your same spot; but with a boy at Dundee; Knowing I was going to pull, but not wanting to make waves and so cause things to be more difficult.
There is a point when you realize the Program could become very adversarial and you actually have concerns it might be difficult to pull your own kid! To be fair, I had no such problem - but one is definitely aware of the potential for such problems - and as Ginger says - That in itself is cause for serious concern.
One other thing I want to point out - the Program is the Program, where ever it is. There is no difference between how the program operates in Carolina Springs and Spring Creek Lodge or Ivy Ridge or any of the many others. The one exception might be Tranquility Bay - which is extra horrible by all accounts - but the program its self is exactly the same even there.
I do know people who have had daughters in Carolina Springs. They don't read the forums - but they are out there. If you want to write me, I can try and put you in touch with them.
But really, you have all the info you need. CSA is just the same as the rest.
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