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Offline Anonymous

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« on: August 04, 2004, 03:54:00 PM »
I am the father of a 16 year old son who is now in the Elan School in Maine (for one week.) If anybody (parent or alumni) can share some information regarding the school or would like to discuss, I would appreciate it.
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« Reply #1 on: August 04, 2004, 04:56:00 PM »
does your son suffer from ?Are there other resources available to you?

Even if you would decide that Elan is a good resource will your son be able to complete the program? They have cut back in size dramatically in recent years. Are they closing?

Did you take a tour? Were you satisfied with the physical condition? Odors etc in the buildings.

Who's paying for this?.

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http://www.isaccorp.com/watchlist.html

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« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2004, 05:52:00 PM »
Yea as art said take him out of there, unless you want your kid to kill you in the near future.
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« Reply #3 on: August 04, 2004, 11:27:00 PM »
What a mean thing to say! Why would you tell someone that their son will kill them? Why are you anonymous anyway? Comments like that anger me. :evil:
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« Reply #4 on: August 04, 2004, 11:39:00 PM »
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"I am the father of a 16 year old son who is now in the Elan School in Maine (for one week.) If anybody (parent or alumni) can share some information regarding the school or would like to discuss, I would appreciate it."
If your son is truly at elan, go to elanalum.com..............then click on the communications door. Then contact the webmaster, who will in turn contact you. Then you can talk to other parents. They helped me out when I was really feeling confused and sad. You will find good people there. Which house is he in. I will talk to you on the other site. My son is there too and all they want to do here is slam parents.
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« Reply #5 on: August 05, 2004, 06:23:00 AM »
Yea go to elan alum and join ole Ken deletzky and become one of his puppets why dont you?

so you and your kid got in an argument, so what do you do, totally mind fuck him and expose him to a abusisve situation for the next 32 months.

Thats right, one kid once he got out killed his parents becuase he was so angered from being at Elan.
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« Reply #6 on: August 05, 2004, 07:51:00 AM »
That's right, ONE kid out of how many? Isn't this site intended for helping others? Or..., Is it here to scare the shit out of people? A kid from my state killed his parents too. Ever think some kids are just disturbed no matter where they go or where they are from? Let's get real!
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« Reply #7 on: August 05, 2004, 07:57:00 AM »
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"Yea go to elan alum and join ole Ken deletzky and become one of his puppets why dont you?



so you and your kid got in an argument, so what do you do, totally mind fuck him and expose him to a abusisve situation for the next 32 months.



Thats right, one kid once he got out killed his parents becuase he was so angered from being at Elan."
Your parents really sent you to elan because you got into an arguement? I would be angry too. Were they just looking for a high priced babysitter or is there something else that may have landed you there?
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« Reply #8 on: August 05, 2004, 08:17:00 AM »
Don't try changing the topic and twisting words, the focus is about you and why you are so stupid to send your kid to a place where abuse has been exposed.

You need to seek help, for you are the one with the clouded judgement for leaving your kid in the custody of a bunch of wannabe shrinks.

Tell you what, why don't you call up Elan and have Elan fax you over their cert's and qualifacations for caring for troubled teens?

They can't, they dont have it.
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« Reply #9 on: August 05, 2004, 09:23:00 AM »
Present Parents are only gonna encourage you to send your kids to Elan. Parents are not ready to accept that they should have made another choice regarding the treatment of their children. This is part of the mentality. Once your sucked in draw in others

There are lots of good legitimate treatment programs out there . Research and find them.

Elan has been in existence for over thirty years. Why are the facilities declining instead of expanding.

Why doesn't the State of Maine use Elan as a resource?
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« Reply #10 on: August 05, 2004, 12:13:00 PM »
Disagree with you on one point Art

I AM NOT DAMAGED BY ELAN!!

Sure we have been affected by Elans ill treatment but I wouldn't say I am damaged.

I have taken many positive steps to overcome Elans effect on me. They have been suceesful

I am sure you have to.

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« Reply #11 on: August 06, 2004, 12:53:00 AM »
Hi Art, I would love to talk to you on the phone someday because it is much more personal. I think I told you before that my son lived with his father, he has now told me he didn't want to come around me because he was high all the time and he knew that I would be on to him. His father, not only allowed this, but also smoked with him. If I am guilty of anything, it is having a child with a stupid losing moron. I am very guilty there. Either elan, or other kids in the groups have told my son that his father was, and still is a major factor in his struggled past, and will continue to be in his future. I will not take blame for this and I don't know why you insist I should. I think you are being a little hard on me. Art, I have been in and out of counciling since he was seven years old. I have given my soul to help him. He doesn't want to be with his father anymore. Only to visit. He wants to be a big brother again like he use to be, this time only better. I am far from a perfect parent, although I must say I know two women that come close. I call them for advice often. I am very upfront in admitting when I am wrong. I feel no guilt whatsoever when it comes to my son. He has ODD and fought me every step of the way. I have had a very tormented 11 years. My ex tries to undermine me STILL and has always told my son negetive things about me. I am convinced that his drinking has damaged his mind. I've been divorced for 16 years years, you would think he would move on with his life. Be Good :grin:
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« Reply #12 on: August 06, 2004, 01:15:00 AM »
Art, I wasn't accusing YOU when I stated the "slam parents" remark. I was refering to the bag heads. I do not see you do this. That's why I talk to you. I think you saw and experienced some horrfic stuff and I feel for you. I would NEVER discount what you went through. I just hate when you call me brainwashed. I hope we can talk about this in 9 months or so. Then we can have a true debate because I will know how things are working for our family. I do pray that I can tell you  that elan has changed and made a difference. We definatly have different opinions without a doubt. I don't have a problem with that. I still like you. ::nod::  If we were all alike, the world would be a boring place.
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« Reply #13 on: August 06, 2004, 01:35:00 AM »
it usually hits alum's a month to a year after leaving. especially when the reality of so much time in horrible isolation reflects in social suroundings, topics and attitudes.  I wouls say "you'll see" but you wont.  You dont even have the foggiest.  Not to be rude as always, but like I say to so many who post in elan sites that didnt partake in the forced bullshit. You wont know and even if we tried to explain you wont know.  Go sign in for 2.5 years and deal with it, then I can take your oppinion seriously. Till then............
SyN[ This Message was edited by: MrSyNiStEr on 2004-08-05 22:36 ]
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« Reply #14 on: August 06, 2004, 08:19:00 PM »
I understand what you guys are saying about the isolation and I have had deep concerns about this. When I bring it up to the school, they don't have much to say. There is MUCH about that school that I HATE, although I NEED to keep a positive focus if we are going to have success as a family. I think it is negligent that they don't have a handbook. I had to find out most things about elan as events unfolded (of shall I say folded).The lack of visits, not being allowed to exercise unless you "have strength". What a stupid way to teach lessons. I really do not want to debate this stuff because it really brings me great pain. It is like taking away nutritious foods. The weaker and lower you feel, the harder it is to pull yourself up. I know my son isn't brainwashed the way you guys think he might be. He is strong willed like me and refuses to suck up to anyone.(Not necessarely a good thing) I can't seem to spell either. He has been jobless since being shotdown in January. He said he is more concerned about his school work and trying to be honest which is mostly what landed him there in the first place. He decided this on his own which gives me hope and the strength to endure his absence. I know we will struggle when he comes home and I haven't a clue on how to parent an 18 year old that has the maturity of a 15/16 year old. I have BIG worries. I am fortunate that his heavy drinking, cartoon watching father is living in Maine and cannot stop by and pick him up, unannounced like a superhero when things get tough. This only made my son have no coping skills when conflits arose. Then, he would tell my son what a mean mother, bad parent because I was too strict, I was, a "money hungry jew" and a "bitch" according to what my son has told me. There is so much more, but I sure your imagination can fill in the blanks. It sickens me that a parent would tell their OWN child horrible things about thier other parent (even if they were true) because that is a part of their being. If your parent is scum,it would make you feel 1/2 of you is scum.  It hurts me that this was done to my child. I'm getting upset so I need to stop typing. Later CT
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