We were also at Howey Desisto no snow to shovel. We were also alowwed to have music in our rooms and around campus. One kid in my dorm was a DJ and had a full DJ system in his room. The were still levels to go through and we still had allot runaways and Limit structures to deal with. I do remember my dorm being what was called dormed because we had a kid runaway and we had not picked up on it. We had to stay in our dorms and have group meetings until the head of the school said we could stop. all meals in our dorm, and no smoking we were only allowed to smoke in 2 places, the smoking circle and the game room area. We had video games and pool and ping pong. There still were what seemed like 1000 rules and your life was not so fun if you got in trouble. This was over 20 years ago and things have definetly changed. It was as close to a normal school as you could get, we still got strip searched and all our stuff was searched when we came back from vacations, but kids still got stuff through now and then. Gastault therapy was the method used. I could not tell you what that was. Still not sure.
I know that stockbridge was run the same way back then. Howey i believe closed in the late 80's, not because of abuse. There were some real caring and concerned staff and some that were full of it. But such is life.So when someone here trys to tell me what my boarding school experience was based on what they have heard about desisto in the later stages of the school, it kind of pissses me off. Sure i did not want to be there, but i had just put my mom through hell for 2 years and looking back,she had tried everything with me. The worst thing i ever saw at desisto was a 17 year old boy who was rather large beat the shit out of a very small dorm parent and put him in the hospital. The boy was arrested and taken to jail and never came back to the school. I think his name was Leo. Never saw anything bad happen to a kid. It was a different world then. I think the BM schools of today are what schools like desisto evolved to.
Some of it good and some of it bad. These schools are just 1000 times more strict than the desisto of the past.Again there are things i don't agree with that are done now, but do believe it is better than the downward spiral most of the kids i see are on. Most have these parents have tried everything.The one that cares