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Craig Rogers of ALA on: "Twisted Memories of the Past..."
« on: June 05, 2011, 12:05:11 AM »
Gee willikers! ... :D

Craig Rogers seems to feel he can speak for all troubled teens in this recent blog entry. Who are all assuredly "playing the game"... like he once did!

As if life is ever really all that simple!

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Troubled Teens Leadership Blog | Abundant Life Academy

Twisted Memories of the Past Secure our Status in the Present | Troubled Teens taking back their life

Jun 03 Posted by Craig Rogers in Troubled Teen Leaders - We Don't Give Up

Troubled Teens twisting memories of our past may support our current version of reality (perception of the past), consequently our perception is constantly being reinfored in order to keep homestatis as it pertains to our reality.

Twisting memories of our past may support our current version of reality (perception of the past), consequently our perception is constantly being reinfored in order to keep homestatis as it pertains to our reality (sometimes delusions keep our world from falling apart).  Meaning, we are compelled to feel good about our current situation, regardless of what it is, in order to cope with whatever circumstance we find ourselves in.  Prisoners often convince themselves that they are innocent and they blame the "system", which makes it easier for them to cope with the reality of prison.  Some prisoners do not view themselves as "criminals" because in their own mind they should not be in prison (do not deserve prison and don't agree with being placed into prison); therefore their presence in prison is not their falut and in their reality they are victims, "screwed over" by the system. This is a self-induced delusion created to help the prisoner cope with the reality of prison.

Twisting the past is a matter of convenience, and the twisting of the past helps bring us peace about our current circumstance; often giving us an excuse or a "reason" as to why we are failing, or why we are miserable, or what led us to be in a bad place.  The bad spot we find ourselves in certainly has nothing to do with our behavior, or our bad/poor choices.  If we were to awaken to the fact that our choices led us to the position we find ourselves in (a bad spot), then we have to take responsiblity for getting there. Taking responsibility for our current status is hard, uncomfortable, and requires maturity and emotional strength.  Moreover, to get out of the bad position we find ourselves in we must hold ourselves and others accountable.  Responsibility and accountability are hard work, and to exercise them we must be strong people, full of character and integrity, willing to do the hard work, and comfortable with admitting our faults.  We must be willing to be humble and ask for forgiveness.  More than all of that, we must be willing to become empathetic, and to give grace to those who have not lived up to our expectations, and to exercise mercy to those who failed us.

The truth is to be humble, empathetic, and to live "in grace" one must realize that we all fail, and we all hurt others, and we all fall short, and each and every one of us will disappoint those we love, hurt those we adore, and betray those who love us.  To be upset, angry, and resentful toward ANYONE who did not live up to our expectation is hypocritical.  To lash out and blame others who let us down (failing us), disappointed us, or misunderstood us, is to exercise extreme hypocrisy.  On the flip side, to understand that at times we will give our very best to others only to fail, disappoint, or fall short is to be emotionally mature, emotionally stable, and emotionally secure. No one is without blame, or better yet, all of us at one point or another hurt those we love and make poor decisions that end up harming/hurting others.  ALL OF US ARE GUILTY.  Therefore, the only possible healthy way to look at the faults and flaws of others is to first look at ourselves.  Have we been guilty or responsible for doing the same to others?  Have we been in their place?  Do we know what its like to fail, or to fall short?

When we are at fault, when we fail and disappoint others, or when we are caught lying/decieving we want people to mock us, demean us, say all kinds of nasty things about us, ridicule and denoucne our worth, accuse us of things we are not guilty of, and to smash us into the ground as if we were unwanted pests?  Do we want those we have let down to hate us, to throw us away, or to trample all over us with ugly hateful words?  When those we fail forgive us, exercising empathy and understanding that we all fall short, forgiving us and dig deep to bring forth the best of us (despite all our flaws) don't we feel good?  Those empathetic people who forgive us, who understand our failures, and restrain themselves from judging us... aren't we attracted to them?  Don't we look up to them and admire their heart?  Don't we appreciate their understanding, patience, and willingness to see us as human "beings" (people worth the investment)?  Don't we appreciate their mercy?  Aren't we thankful for their grace toward us?  Then why do we turn around and beat the hell out of those who we believe hurt us?  Why do we spew vial, sling hate, and hope that terrible harm comes to those who we believe failed us?  People who enjoy mercy when seeking forgiveness yet bring upon ugly judgment upon others are hypocrites at the least, they are blinded to their unattractive state, and the judgment they dish out will come back upon them sooner or later.

To the one twisting the past, altering the memories, and reconciling the lies they believe so that they can become victims (not responsible), will receive false relief.  True relief will never be found by recreating (fabricating) events and circumstances that justify the absence of self-accountability.  Therefore, if one were to claim "I was a victim" then in their mind they have no responsiblity for what has happened to them.  Meaning, they were in a bad spot only because they had been victimized, and they have no responsiblity for getting out of the circumstance they fond themselves in.  Unfortunately, everyone involved in their present situation that challenges their victim stance becomes a target to be seen as one in the same as the original victimizer.  Reality gets twisted, lies replace the truth, circumstances are just delusions, and the truth is all relative to those who refuse to take responsibility.  Alice in Wonderland!  Moreover, as this type of person looks upon the harm they have caused others, they immediately state, "they deserved it!"  They immediately work to re-create a reality in order to justify treating people poorly, and lump them into the "big conspiracy" that has come upon them.  To the guy that drops out of school, loses job after job, has several marriages that fail, will see the world as if "they were out to get me".  Who is they?  Anyone who held them accountable or brought forth the truth to dispell their victim stance.

The people who are deluded are those who wish ill upon others.  People who harbor resentment, hate, and seek vengeance are people who are trapped, in bondage, held back from growth, blinded by darkness and in perpetual stinch of condemnation.  For example, criminals will rarely, if ever, see law enforcement personnel as "good guys" serving the community.  They will never see policemen as men and women of valor, integral people risking their lives for the safety of the community.  They will never see dedicated District Attorney's, prosecuters, or judges as honorable public servants who personally sacrifice a great deal in order that law abiding citizens enjoy the fruit that comes from adhering to and protecting principles of a just society. Criminals are the ultimate victim.  Similarly, troubled teens who lied to their parents, snuck around and used drugs and alcohol, partied and skipped school, violated trust and involved themselves in reckless behaviors, failing in school, see adults (parents, coaches, teachers) as the enemy.  When these troubled teens are confronted with their behavior the act like victims, spewing hate and nasty words toward their parents, yelling and screaming, threatening, and causing nothing but chaos, discord, and divsion in the home.

People who report to be oppressed by others are either "in fact" oppressed by a situation or person, or they are in a self-induced delusion of "oppression".  Its not okay to get these two situations mixed up.  Getting it wrong is not good, and the outcome could last forever.  Make the assumption that you are a victim when "in fact" you are not, is a place I would not want to wish upon anyone. Only by the grace of God was I able to be "saved" from a self-induced stupor of victim hood.  I was luck to get out, and to see the truth.  I was luck that people held me accountable and did not let me stay as a victim.  I was fortunate that good people refused to let me "play the game" and ruin my life.  I hated those people for awhile, and now I hold them in high esteem and great admiration.

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Craig Rogers
Co-founder and CEO of Abundant Life Academy. Life Coaches, Wendy and Craig Rogers, co-founded ALA in December 2000. Over the last 19 years Craig and Wendy have served over 5,000 students and families

http://craigstephenrogers.com


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Re: Craig Rogers of ALA on: "Twisted Memories of the Past...
« Reply #1 on: June 06, 2011, 05:51:48 PM »
Ah yes, Pearls of wisdom from another self rightious fundy know nothing. Lets just go ahead and gloss over some trauma,shall we?

 By the way, of the 5000, childeren served....did they serve them with a potato, or perhaps a green vegetable?   About medium-rare with a nice salad?
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Re: Craig Rogers of ALA on: "Twisted Memories of the Past...
« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2011, 09:13:05 PM »
Go! Programmie-Trans 9000!

The PT9K reads the paragraph where this douchebag spews hate about people while claiming that they spew hate, and immediately bluescreens from a logic error.
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Re: Craig Rogers of ALA on: "Twisted Memories of the Past...
« Reply #3 on: June 06, 2011, 09:50:59 PM »
Quote from: "seamus"
Ah yes, Pearls of wisdom from another self rightious fundy know nothing. Lets just go ahead and gloss over some trauma,shall we?

 By the way, of the 5000, childeren served....did they serve them with a potato, or perhaps a green vegetable?   About medium-rare with a nice salad?
Judging by some of the survivor sentiments posted in various pockets on the Net, they sure didn't serve them ... sunny-side up! . . .  :D
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