DJ: You are so funny - I deleted the long initial post because I wrote it when bored and grading work after I met friend for coffee (None-ya read it) who was having issues with new guy. She is younger than I am (she is 29; I am 40) so I think she was hoping I had experience with this particular issue, but this is one area I don't... yet. Her bf is 42, and she is coming off another rel where it was non existent. So, yeah I had her google and talk to doc (her bf won't take pharma) but what else can I tell her? I don't know. I gave her a bunch of tips for relaxing, no pressure fun, but she is not comfortable with some of those methods. The big problem is she takes it personally - that is why she talked to me about it. They are both athletic and very healthy, and you'd think that would be enough, but wtf do I know? I'm not their sex therapist. But thought y'all could be !

But what guy here is going to say, I had this and this is what I did?