On 2003-10-06 21:16:00, Deborah wrote:
"Look, there seems to be two kinds of parents. Those who wouldn't dream of sending their kids to strangers and trusting blindly that they would be well cared for. And there are those who are far too trusting, desperate, revengeful,________. They assume the owner's and staff genuinely care, who can be very convincing, particularly to a desperate parent."
There are more than those two types. I can give two examples based on extensive, very personal, firsthand experience. There was my mother, definite type B above. And it wasn't just us kids. She reveled in using AA dogma to scapegoat and demonize my father all of my life. And she actually believed she could diagnose alcohol and other drug dependency in strangers based on brief, casual conversation.
But there's a type C parent who becomes convinced that they're in over their heads, that their kids are in real trouble and that their own resources and abilities are just not going to be enough. They don't necessarily agree with the totalitarian program philosophy. But they'll go along with it, no matter what the program demands of them, because the haven't got any better ideas.
That was my dad. And I remember quite a few other program parents who seemed to feel that way. They'd soften the blow any time they could with little things like giving us a mattress to sleep on in the host home. (Straight housed the clients in the homes of families further along in the program.) Doesn't mean they didn't violate fire codes by nailing the windows shut and dead-bolting the doors or that they wouldn't readily lie under oath to convince a judge to sign a court order or to convince a cop to make a wrongful arrest. They were, indeed, snookered into doing all kinds of awful things in the name of saving the children.
But I don't see a lot sense in putting it to the parents, even the most sadistic 'tin god' types among them. The parents come and the parents go in the continual revolving door that is the Program. For the last 30 years, CEDU, the Lichfields the Kays have been at this game, ruthlessly taking advantage of desperate parents; exploiting their worst fears for power and money.
Please remember, folks, so that you'll know what to expect and not be taken by surprise. It's really not ALL about the money. The money's primarily a means to an end. You can see that plainly if you look into how heavily these people invest in public policy and how obviously they receive their dividends. At the nut of it, it's about power. It's a lust for totalitarian god-like status and the power to destroy all critics.
And it all rests on their fragile ability to prevent us from communicating among ourselves and to the public. One voice won't do much, but there are literally thousands of us out there with a few more hooking up with eachother every day.
Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passions, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence.
--John Adams
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