***My take on this is that the mom and the dad both were justifying their reason for selling these things.
Wasn?t necessary. Could?ve sold the tickets without the pathetic story. He was angry and needed to vent and be validated by others. Was eBay the place to do it?
***It looks like they are both wanting to learn how to teach cause and effect. It would be interesting to find out if it made any impact on the kids.
Cause and effect? Drink, drive, wreck the car. If you survive- you loose your license, pay fines and increased insurance premiums, do community service, make visits to and pay a probation office for a lengthy amount of time, pay additional penalty ($1500 in Tx) to retain a license after the fact, have employers reject your application even though you won?t be driving a company vehicle. I?m sure there are other social ?consequences? that I?m not thinking of. On top of this the kid was publicly humiliated and his concert tickets taken, could be forbidden from seeing his girlfriend, etc etc. Somehow I don?t think his punishment phase is over yet. How much ?cause and effect? is necessary, and when does it become too much? When is the ?cause and effect? actually a parent seeking revenge? This is very typical of programs- overkill on the punishment aspect of BM. Cause and effect when administered by humans is not always reasonable or rational, and frequently teaches nothing except who is the authority.
***I can't control how another parent reacts to their child's behavior and definitely not what they do about it.
Of course that is true, but we all have the ability to influence another?s decision. And when there is a gang (support group) of parents, all giving the same advice it can be, and often is, an even stronger influence. For me, a genuine support group would provide a venue for a parent to vent their latest frustration, be listened to while they sort through their confusion, go home and implement what they came up with, return the next week and vent some more, think some more, implement, etc etc etc. Very little advice would be given. In other words, the GROUP would not have an agenda except to support by listening. The primary purpose of a support group should be to provide a venue, so parents aren?t alone and isolated, which can result in rash and unreasonable decisions and behaviors. The group would not work as a tag team to convince the parent of anything.
If admissions people followed your protocol there may be only a small fraction of kids in these facilities. I tend to believe that the majority of them are there for petty reasons. Or because they lied and wrecked the car- good kids making bad choices.