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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #30 on: September 02, 2010, 10:26:28 PM »
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Lets say that they were not there discussing ways to stay sober.  Lets say that instead they were a group of survivors who shared a common struggle of dealing with their time spent at straight.  They chipped in each week for coffee and donuts and support each other with their stories and helping each other get through another few days. Would you still feel a strong sense that these people should not meet?  Would you try to disband this group of survivors because they had become a Cult (by your definition) or would their cause allow you to turn a blind eye to them and allow them to meet because you understood their need to meet.

I think if you took the time to understand their need to meet and the comfort it is to them to know there was a support group out there for them you would not feel so threatened by them.



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Yeah but our cult would be way cooler than yours 'cause we would be drinking, taking drugs, and fornicating our way through the next few days with or without the help of some theoretical "higher power".  If we did form a cult such as the one of which you speak, it would be so much cooler and exclusive than AA that assholes like yourself would not even be aware of it's existence until we started a jihad and eliminated you and your sorry ilk from the face of the Earth.
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I'm in...


Me too... RTP are you going to be our leader !!!!    :seg:
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #31 on: September 02, 2010, 10:48:30 PM »
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I'm in.


Me too... RTP are you going to be our leader !!!!    :seg:



Shhhhhhhhh..........don't tell anyone........but the answer is a definitive "HELL YEAH!!!!!!!"

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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #32 on: September 02, 2010, 11:01:50 PM »
You need to say something at the beginning of each of your meetings to humble yourselves.



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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #33 on: September 02, 2010, 11:03:16 PM »
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You need to say something at the beginning of each of your meetings to humble yourselves.



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You need to go eat another bag of dicks.
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #34 on: September 02, 2010, 11:07:19 PM »
Here you go, try this:


Fornits, grant me the serenity
To accept the quality level of the drugs I buy with spare change;
Courage to blindly self medicate with them;
And wisdom to know my posts here make a difference.

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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #35 on: September 02, 2010, 11:49:03 PM »
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Here you go, try this:


Fornits, grant me the serenity
To accept the quality level of the drugs I buy with spare change;
Courage to blindly self medicate with them;
And wisdom to know my posts here make a difference.

[/size]


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Whootie, blowing away the competition into shreds. Hey, RTP2003, you still have your ass, son. Hows it feel to have Whooties, shrapnel up your ass...... :roflmao:  :roflmao:  :roflmao:  ::unhappy::  ::unhappy::  ::unhappy::
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #36 on: September 02, 2010, 11:53:26 PM »
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My suggestion is to hold Danny accountable for his threats with a consequence. Each and every time he threatens a member of fornits, we consequence him by delivering fliers to the poor dimwitted drunks that need them the most.

  :roflmao:  :roflmao: You folks are hillarious, tonight.
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #37 on: September 03, 2010, 12:46:28 AM »
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Quote from: "Whooter"
Here you go, try this:


Fornits, grant me the serenity
To accept the quality level of the drugs I buy with spare change;
Courage to blindly self medicate with them;
And wisdom to know my posts here make a difference.

[/size]


...

Whootie, blowing away the competition into shreds. Hey, RTP2003, you still have your ass, son. Hows it feel to have Whootie, shrapnel up your ass...... :roflmao:  :roflmao:  :roflmao:  ::unhappy::  ::unhappy::  ::unhappy::

Number one we would not as Fornits... Would be more like Jah and ask for the serenity and patience to wait on some good hydroponic shit finish growing.. and the courage to ignore bafoon posting such as yours and the wisdom to realize you are dumb asses..
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #38 on: September 03, 2010, 12:55:15 AM »
For information on the creation and use of psychic weapons, PM me and we'll talk....

"The Power of language is so great that it can call things into existence simply through naming them."---Richard Mitchell, Less Than Words Can Say

The Red Temple Cult is NOT some 'cult-of-personality' based on the skin encapsulated self of the primary spokesbeing for the Cult, NO WAY, UH-UH, NYET, NEIN, NON. Far from it. Unlike the religions of the Slave Gods, such as Xtianity, Islam, etc., the Cult is not seeking groveling worshippers, but freethinking, independent-minded allies, who can make welcome contributions toward fulfilling the Misssion of the Cult. Hell, the Cult isn't even a 'religion' in the traditional sense......

ON THE MANIFESTATION OF ALIEN ENTITIES


(RTP) was dreaming. He was in England, and everything was closed because it was a Monday. After conferring with a business associate, he went into a hotel, which turned out to be empty room after empty room, floor after floor (there weren't any elevators so he had to take the stairs--that got to be a real bitch after a while). (RTP) discovered evidence of human habitation on one of the higher floors: A piano, on which was folded a newspaper, and on which sat an ashtray and a pack of cigarettes. (RTP) took one of the cigarettes out of the pack, which was a brand he was unfamiliar with, and lit it. After taking a couple of drags, a woman's voice was calling to him, so he turned around. A rather short, dark-haired woman was speaking to him in a very thick, nearly unintelligable Welsh(?) accent. (RTP) told her he could not understand her, and she morphed into a black man who spoke with a Jamaican accent. This revealed to (RTP) that the entire hotel was an alien labratory, where he was being observed, and his behavior in various situations was being catalogued and analyzed. (RTP) finished his cigarette and walked downstairs, leaving the "hotel" and going to a restaurant where he ate dinner with some Turks who offered him whiskey and cannabis. He declined a drink, but accepted a joint. He spent the rest of the evening cursing the hubris of the extraterrestrials for using him as a lab rat in their expiraments, harmless though they were.

Goddamn aliens......

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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #40 on: September 03, 2010, 01:35:16 AM »
Has anybody else here actually said the serenity prayer, and really meant it? I was in a place a while ago and desperate and some really nice people at AA and treatment centers helped me, and taught me the serenity prayer. I said it and really meant it,it wasn't just a phrase or a joke or something. I meant it like you really mean a prayer, when you have run out of options and have only God left to ask for help. I guess when you are in that place, it's more than just a saying , it is more like a lifeline to desperately needed hope and something to strive for.
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #41 on: September 03, 2010, 01:54:45 AM »
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I cannot accept,
And the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people
I had to kill today because they pissed me off.
Also, help me to be careful of the toes I step on today,
as they may be connected to the ass that I may have to kiss tomorrow.
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #42 on: September 03, 2010, 02:13:31 AM »
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Has anybody else here actually said the serenity prayer, and really meant it? I was in a place a while ago and desperate and some really nice people at AA and treatment centers helped me, and taught me the serenity prayer. I said it and really meant it,it wasn't just a phrase or a joke or something. I meant it like you really mean a prayer, when you have run out of options and have only God left to ask for help. I guess when you are in that place, it's more than just a saying , it is more like a lifeline to desperately needed hope and something to strive for.
Yeah.  I said it.  I meant it.  I truly believed it to my core.  I believed if I left the program that I would die.  Why?  Because they told my I had a disease until I believed it.  I had only gotten drunk once but that was enough.  They told me they could tell.  They told me we caught it young and I had a chance.

It felt good.  It felt like I belonged to something.  It felt like I was in some exclusive club.  It felt like this disease gave me a new identity I could be proud of.  I was in recovery.  I took chips.  I cherished them.  I kept them in a safe place.  I loved the program and the AA meetings they took us to.

It's really too painful to talk about.  You put so much faith in something.  You give yourself to people.  You trust them.  You love them...  And you learn they're only doing it so they can make money off your stay.  You learn they've raped your mind and those problems you thought you had were entirely fictional.  it's not right to do that to people.  I don't really care whether it's a cult or not.  AA may help some people but when you're coerced into it, or you're lied to and told it's the only way, it can kill.

I will never say that "prayer" again.

Maybe you had a problem, Nax, but that was of your own doing, not some disease.  If you chose to quit you did that with your own free will.  Stop giving others undue credit.
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #43 on: September 03, 2010, 10:28:18 AM »
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If you have evidence that AA is hurting people I am open to reading it,


Yes, it's from the Orange Papers so no doubt you'll dismiss it but notice the sources he cites.  And why you're even in this discussion when you've admitted that you have no knowledge of and haven't read the BB, I don't know why you feel compelled to argue the point.  As I said before, maybe you should refrain from commenting until you know what you're talking about.

Just a few.....
The Harvard Mental Health Letter, Volume 12, Number 4, October 1995,
American Health Magazine
Dr. Sheldon Zimberg





http://www.orange-papers.org/orange-eff ... ard_Mental

The Harvard Mental Health Letter, from The Harvard Medical School, stated quite plainly:

    On their own
    There is a high rate of recovery among alcoholics and addicts, treated and untreated. According to one estimate, heroin addicts break the habit in an average of 11 years. Another estimate is that at least 50% of alcoholics eventually free themselves although only 10% are ever treated. One recent study found that 80% of all alcoholics who recover for a year or more do so on their own, some after being unsuccessfully treated. When a group of these self-treated alcoholics was interviewed, 57% said they simply decided that alcohol was bad for them. Twenty-nine percent said health problems, frightening experiences, accidents, or blackouts persuaded them to quit. Others used such phrases as "Things were building up" or "I was sick and tired of it." Support from a husband or wife was important in sustaining the resolution.
    Treatment of Drug Abuse and Addiction — Part III, The Harvard Mental Health Letter, Volume 12, Number 4, October 1995, page 3.
    (See Aug. (Part I), Sept. (Part II), Oct. 1995 (Part III).)


So much for the sayings that "Everybody needs a support group" and "Nobody can do it alone". Most successful people do.

Likewise, American Health Magazine reported:

    ...people are about ten times as likely to change on their own as with the help of doctors, therapists, or self-help groups.
    J. Gurion, American Health Magazine, March 1990.


And note that the Harvard Medical School says that the support of a good spouse is more important than that of a 12-Step group. But A.A. says just the opposite: "Dump your spouse and marry the A.A. group, because A.A. is The Only Way."

    "I decided I must place this program above everything else, even my family, because if I did not maintain my sobriety I would lose my family anyway."
    The Big Book, 3rd Edition — Chapter B10, He Sold Himself Short, page 293.

And a rehash of the Big Book that is targeted at youths tells this story of an allegedly-successful recovery:

    Even after she remarries, she doesn't lose sight of her priorities. She places God first (Me: but it's not religious, really) and A.A. second. Her husband is never more than the third most important aspect of her life.
    Big Book Unplugged; A Young Person's Guide to Alcoholics Anonymous, John R., page 107.



In his book on the treatment of alcoholism, Dr. Sheldon Zimberg surveyed the literature for reports of spontaneous remission of alcoholism:

    Spontaneous Remission in Alcoholism

          A number of studies have found that a small percentage of alcoholics improve to the point of remission of problems associated with alcohol consumption. Bailey and Stewart (235) interviewed alcoholics after three years without treatment and found that about 27 percent of the former patients denied alcoholism. Cahalan (268) in a national drinking practices study noted that drinking problems decrease in men after age 50 and the amount of alcohol consumed also decreases. Cahalan, Cisin, and Crossley (11) in another national survey of drinking practices found that about one-third more individuals had problem drinking in a period before their three-year study period than during the study period itself, suggesting a tendency toward spontaneous remission of drinking problems. Goodwin, Crane, and Guze (269) found that on an eight-year follow-up with no treatment about 18 percent of the alcoholic felons had been abstinent for at least two years. Lemere (238) reported long-term abstinence in 11 percent of untreated alcoholics over an unspecified interval. Kendall and Staton (236) reported 15 percent abstinence in untreated alcoholics after a seven-year follow-up. Kissin, Platz, and Su (203) reported a 4 percent one-year improvement rate in untreated lower class alcoholics. Imber et al. (10) described a follow-up of 58 alcoholics who received no treatment for their alcoholism. It was noted that the rate of abstinence was 15 percent at one year and 11 percent after three years.
          In sum, the preponderance of these studies suggests that a spontaneous remission rate for alcoholism of at least one-year duration is about 4-18 percent. Successful treatment would, therefore, have to produce rates of improvement significantly above this probable range of spontaneous remission.

   10. Imber, S., Schultz, E., Funderburk, F., Allen, R. and Flamer, R. The Fate of the Untreated Alcoholic. J. Nerv and Ment. Dis., 1976, 162:238-247.
    11. Cahalan, D., Cisin, I. H. and Crossley, H. M. American Drinking Practices: A National Survey of Drinking Behavior and Attitudes. New Brunswick, Rutgers Center for Alcohol Studies, 1974.
    203. Kissin, B., Platz, A. and Su, W. H. Social and Psychological Factors in the Treatment of Chronic Alcoholics. J. Psychiat. Res., 1970, 8:13-27.
    235. Bailey, M. B. and Stewart, S. Normal Drinking by Persons Reporting Previous Problem Drinking. Quart. J. Stud. Alc., 1967, 28:305-315.
    236. Kendall, R. E. and Staton, M. C. The Fate of Untreated Alcoholics. Quart. J. Stud. Alc., 1966, 27:30-41.
    238. Lemere, F. What Happens to Alcoholics. Amer. J. Psychiat., 1953, 109:674-675.
    268. Cahalan, D. Problem Drinkers: A National Survey, San Francisco, Jossey-Bass, 1970.
    269. Goodwin, W. W., Crane, J. B., and Guze, S. B. Felons Who Drink: An Eight-Year Follow-up. Quart. J. Stud. Alc., 1971, 32:136-147.
    The Clinical Management of Alcoholism, Sheldon Zimberg, M.D., page 179, footnotes on pages 223 to 234.


The key sentence is the last one — for a treatment program to claim success, it would have to produce recovery rates greater than the usual rate of spontaneous remission. Alcoholics Anonymous comes nowhere near exceeding a 4 to 18 percent per year recovery rate.

Personally, I find the 18 percent number to be far too high to believe. (At that rate, 85% of all of the alcoholics in the country should have recovered in just the last 10 years. Obviously, that has not happened.) I agree with R. G. Smart, who calculated a spontaneous remission rate for alcoholism of between 3.7 and 7.4 percent per year. As a simple rule of thumb, the middle value of 5 or 5.5 percent per year is quite believable. Still, the claimed success rate of Alcoholics Anonymous does not even exceed that much lower rate of spontaneous remission.
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Re: Making Amends
« Reply #44 on: September 03, 2010, 07:50:36 PM »
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Has anybody else here actually said the serenity prayer, and really meant it? I was in a place a while ago and desperate and some really nice people at AA and treatment centers helped me, and taught me the serenity prayer. I said it and really meant it,it wasn't just a phrase or a joke or something. I meant it like you really mean a prayer, when you have run out of options and have only God left to ask for help. I guess when you are in that place, it's more than just a saying , it is more like a lifeline to desperately needed hope and something to strive for.
Yeah.  I said it.  I meant it.  I truly believed it to my core.  I believed if I left the program that I would die.  Why?  Because they told my I had a disease until I believed it.  I had only gotten drunk once but that was enough.  They told me they could tell.  They told me we caught it young and I had a chance.

It felt good.  It felt like I belonged to something.  It felt like I was in some exclusive club.  It felt like this disease gave me a new identity I could be proud of.  I was in recovery.  I took chips.  I cherished them.  I kept them in a safe place.  I loved the program and the AA meetings they took us to.

It's really too painful to talk about.  You put so much faith in something.  You give yourself to people.  You trust them.  You love them...  And you learn they're only doing it so they can make money off your stay.  You learn they've raped your mind and those problems you thought you had were entirely fictional.  it's not right to do that to people.  I don't really care whether it's a cult or not.  AA may help some people but when you're coerced into it, or you're lied to and told it's the only way, it can kill.

I will never say that "prayer" again.

Maybe you had a problem, Nax, but that was of your own doing, not some disease.  If you chose to quit you did that with your own free will.  Stop giving others undue credit.

Stop,blaming AA, your TC and every other thing under the sun. My god, what is with some of you folks, today.
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