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Pile of Dead Kids:
All right, in lieu of a few "oh my god did he just say that" minutes of psychological bridge-burning, I'm going to offer THIS as a solution.

You. Her. The father, I don't care if you have to PAY him to be there. A child psychologist, not of the programmie variety. All in the same room. And you sit there and all of you work together to untwist whatever the fuck has gone wrong in her head, for as many sessions as it takes. YOU. HIM. HER. A PROFESSIONAL. ALL AT THE SAME TIME. Have you tried this before? If so, what the hell happened?

Ursus:
@sad: Which wilderness program is she in? And why the antipathy towards you, and the preference towards Dad?

Che Gookin:
How about just letting her come live with you and letting her sort it out for herself? With most suicidal people there is the hype and there is the real danger of someone hurting themselves. I wouldn't get that overly worried about what is going on and just give your daughter some time with you. If here dad is willing to help out to reassure her that he's absolutely fine with the move and that he actively participates in her life that is even better.

That's my suggestion, just let her come live with you and give it time. Time heals all wounds so it is said.

Nihilanthic:
I'd like to drop in and mention that Stockholm syndrome is rather well known.

What's daddio feeding the girl?

Either way, you will not fix anything with a program. The most you'd accomplish is making her bury it - so she can survive while in the program - only to resurface later with a vengeance. There is no quick fix, nor is there some "hard decision" for you to make so you can give yourself kudos for how hard it was that will ameliorate this.

At this point, sad, I'd consider foster care for the child given neither you nor her dad seem to be capable of doing anything in her best interest, the hospital is apparently making money off of referrals or clearly does not vet out the places it gives recommendations to, and the girl is trying to kill herself.

SUCK IT:
The truth is any kid can benefit from being placed in treatment. Tough love is nothing more than helping a kid to grow up into an adult. You can be one of those helicopter parents that hold the hand of their kid through college until they get a job and do wraparound stalking like fornits posters suggest, or you can send them on an adventure of their life with a wilderness program and let them grow into an independent young person ready for life. All the programs that people complain about here are out of business, the posters here were in treatment 25 years ago on average, there was a poll done indicating this. Treatment evolves like any industry and it's really helpful to any kid, not necessarily just troubled teens. Don't let the scare tactics here scare you, treatment programs save lives and 99.99% of kids do well. The other 00.01% end up posting here, its' a safe gamble.

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