Just curious...

[Anonymous]

What I'm the most interested in, or rather curious about, is why the need exists for people to knock what other people say on the message board.  I read this on a quite regular basis, and some things I agree with, some things I don't.  The things that I do agree with, I sit here and nod my head in unison with the sentiment expressed and am glad someone else feels that way or sees it the same way that I do.  That's just human nature, to feel good about not being the only person with a particular opinion on a topic.

But what I don't understand is why, if you don't like what someone has to say, does a person feel the need to take a thread not even intended for that purpose, and turn it into an attack of a person or persons who don't have your particular outlook on life.  Or experiences in KIDS, or the Straights, or whatever other hellhole/salvation you experienced.  

I understand the need for some people to just not talk about things in order to move past them.  But if that's how you feel, then why on earth do you post/read a forum about the very thing you either want or claim to have gotten past?  And please, don't give me the bullshit about keeping up with people.  You can keep up with people in lots of ways, forums aren't the only thing there for you.  And if you're not to a point that another person is, or if you're past it, or if you're going another route, don't you think the adult thing to do is just allow that other person to express whatever he/she is feeling and let it go?

I've just gotten the distinct feeling here lately that there is a lot of maliciousness, and petty catfighting going on that's not necessary.  I haven't posted until now because I didn't feel like it was my place to say anything.  But I think that this falls under the heading that used to be up at the top of each page about "none ever feared the truth should be heard except those who the truth would indict".  Someone's personal experiences can't be totally disqualified by any other individual, unless they saw that person every moment of the entire time in question, and did not leave their side and you were able to see and feel every emotion of that person.

Basically what I'm saying is, cut the shit, please.  No one is more ignorant than the next person, no one has a "right" or "wrong" answer or experience.  Sorry if you don't agree, but I just think that this whole thing might end up keeping someone from putting up how they honestly have dealt with issues, for fear of being ostracized or taunted for their feelings.  I won't mention who/what that sounds like to me, but anyone who's close to the situation can get the drift of that inference.

Happily Anonymous Amongst This Crowd.

[Anonymous]

I'm nodding to this one!  Thanks, I'm glad someone said this!!

[Anonymous]

I`ve been reading for a while as well without making any posts and I too see a few individuals who seem determined to get their points acrossed using all to familiar tactics. I didn`t find it totally effective then either. I don`t know if I should say this but, I`m almost positive I know who at least one of these persons are and SHE should know better! I have to be honest about this. I`ve been out for years, and at first I did spend alot of time bitter etc.But I have to say that this way of living is a dead end street.I had a counseler that only wanted to show sympathy for my "traumatic abuse" and yeah at first i guess it was helpful, but it just seemed to be endless like I would be constantly in some type of recovery or something from this. Needless to say it became difficult for me to tell the truth from the false, I was really, really confused. I had to do something, so being a legitamate alcoholic  I started to really get into the manual for soberiety, the "big book" and some of the other AA history books and started to educate myself through old timers that really seemed to be working the steps(thats the 12 not 8 that we were taught).Basically I made a dicision I was going to take from my years at KIDS whatever I could use, whatever remotely resembled what I`ve read in the BOOK or better yet the BIBLE, the rest I will discard.Now my abuse at KIDS was worse than some but not as bad as others, somewhere in the middle I guess, But it was bad enough, But I just couldn`t stand the direction that I was being lead.So although I don`t at all support any mean comments to one another, I do have to agree with the content of some of the posts.My experience has helped me to see a way that really works.If this site really wanted to be a"good thing" it should provide a SOLUTION, one of hope and love and growth and change. I don`t think that anger and love can exist in the same space, and granted I had to get rid of the anger first, but I don`t see a message of hope here for those people who are suffering.I just see, for the most part, people who are STILL so angry keeping others angry.There isn`t much growth in that for ME! Maybe the hostile posters can not be so impatient, huh? after all that isn`t love. And maybe the rest of us can open our minds up to read between the lines of some of these posts.I was told "don`t shoot the messenger, because of the way it is presented" Sorry for talking so long, I really don`t have any personal OPINIONS but I do have a little bit of EXPERIENCE on both sides of the fence, and there is no way I would waste any more time with the hate. One more thing, I promise, I don`t want to try to appear like I`m special or something or better than anyone hear, If thats how I sound I`m so sorry, that isn`t how I feel at all. I just want to say I`m average at best and if practicing Gods love has worked for me, I know it will work for you too! GOd bless all!