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Teen Runaways are on the increase.
« on: November 29, 2009, 10:40:53 PM »
Teen Runaways

Teen Runaways are on the increase. Many teens think that the grass is greener on the other side.

They are confused and following the crowd of peers making poor choices. Teens want to escape the "rules of a household" and we as parents, become their number one enemy. They feel that they are fearless and can prove they can survive without their parents and our rules. Rules are put in place for a reason; we love our children and want them to grow up with dignity and respect we try to instill in them.  Their flight plan, in some ways, is a cry for attention. Many times runaways are back home shortly, however there are other situations that can be more serious.  This is not to say any child that runs away is not serious, but when this becomes a habit and is their way of rebelling, a parent needs to intervene.

So many times we hear how "their friend's parents" allow a much later curfew or are more lenient, and you are the worst parents in the world. This is very common and the parent feels helpless, hopeless and alone. It is all part of the manipulation the teens put us through. With their unappreciative thoughts of us, they will turn to this destructive behavior, which, at times, results in them leaving the home.

Some teens go to a friend's house or relative they believe they can trust and make up stories about their home life. This is very common, a parent has to suffer the pain and humiliation that it causes to compound it with the need to get your child help that they need. If you fear your child is at risk of running, the lines of communication have to be open. We understand this can be difficult, however if possible needs to be approached in a positive manner. Teen help starts with communication.

If you feel this has escalated to where you cannot control them, it may be time for placement and possibly having your child escorted. Please know that the escorts (transports) are all licensed and very well trained in removing children from their home into safe programs. These escorts are also trained counselors that will talk to your child all the way, and your child will end his/her trip with a new friend and a better understanding of why their parents had to resort to this measure.

Helpful Hint if you child has runaway and you are using all your local resources - offer a cash reward to their friends privately, of course promising their anonymity and hopefully someone will know your child's whereabouts.

Having a teen runaway is very frightening and it can bring you to your wits end.  Try to remain positive and hopeful and do all you can to help understand why your child is acting out this way.  These are times when parents need to seek help for themselves. Don't be ashamed to reach out to others.  We are all about parents helping parents.
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Re: Teen Runaways are on the increase.
« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2009, 02:11:45 AM »
I believe that the future is to implant teenagers with RFID chips.

Then scanners in the supermarkets, busstations, schools and homes will tell parent where their runaway is. A runaway will have to eat and transport himself around. A number of parents could share a database at the police so they can see where their teenager hang around.

At Oursourced Teenage Journey we are in the process of creating a trial in a town in Montana near one of our girls schools. Starting January 2010 all the girls on the highest level who have been allowed to take work in town will have the implant. A couple of the local families have shown interest.
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Re: Teen Runaways are on the increase.
« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2009, 02:12:17 PM »
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Teen Runaways are on the increase. Many teens think that the grass is greener on the other side.

They are confused and following the crowd of peers making poor choices. Teens want to escape the "rules of a household" and we as parents, become their number one enemy.
Sometimes there is good reason for a kid to run away.
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Re: Teen Runaways are on the increase.
« Reply #3 on: December 23, 2009, 03:53:18 PM »
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Teen Runaways are on the increase. Many teens think that the grass is greener on the other side.

They are confused and following the crowd of peers making poor choices. Teens want to escape the "rules of a household" and we as parents, become their number one enemy.
Sometimes there is good reason for a kid to run away.
OH yes,
 There are good reasons. The parents should be open to a objective party (counselor) to come in and talk with them.  Do a inventory on what the attitude of the household has been, be honest with yourself. Sometimes it starts in your own back yard.
I don't mean to get down on the parents here (I am a parent). Just we have to be open to all areas being investigated, so we make responsible informed decisions.  
I'll tell you one thing I do know there are more kids placed in treatment centers that are not helping them b/cuz there parents were lazy. "I know general judgemental statement",  but I have met these parents,  I had parents like this,  they can't handle the work of dealing w/ "a troubled child", that they are pretty much responsible, "for there problems"... ie; not home (working) lack of supervision, drug and alcohole abuse, patience (lack of), divorse, having own problems from dsysfunctional parents and having this manifest itself w/ your children, never being properly parented yourselves, to much pride..ect....The children are the issue we need to help them "no matter what".
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Re: Teen Runaways are on the increase.
« Reply #4 on: December 23, 2009, 04:45:50 PM »
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Teen Runaways are on the increase. Many teens think that the grass is greener on the other side.

They are confused and following the crowd of peers making poor choices. Teens want to escape the "rules of a household" and we as parents, become their number one enemy.
Sometimes there is good reason for a kid to run away.
OH yes,
 There are good reasons. The parents should be open to a objective party (counselor) to come in and talk with them.  Do a inventory on what the attitude of the household has been, be honest with yourself. Sometimes it starts in your own back yard.
I don't mean to get down on the parents here (I am a parent). Just we have to be open to all areas being investigated, so we make responsible informed decisions.  
I'll tell you one thing I do know there are more kids placed in treatment centers that are not helping them b/cuz there parents were lazy. "I know general judgemental statement",  but I have met these parents,  I had parents like this,  they can't handle the work of dealing w/ "a troubled child", that they are pretty much responsible, "for there problems"... ie; not home (working) lack of supervision, drug and alcohole abuse, patience (lack of), divorse, having own problems from dsysfunctional parents and having this manifest itself w/ your children, never being properly parented yourselves, to much pride..ect....The children are the issue we need to help them "no matter what".
Once again I did not log in so my username did not appear, name is Danny Bennison. I posted this ^above...
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Re: Teen Runaways are on the increase.
« Reply #5 on: December 23, 2009, 05:59:09 PM »
BBC has this show called The worlds Strictest parents. They did ship a boy and a girl to a cop family in Oklahoma.

The girl did not want to be there for the entire week because they forced her to confront her severe case of Arachnophobia without therapy. So she packed her suitcase and walked down the road only to be detained by a co-worker to the father.

Anyhow she managed to return home a day or two before the week ended. It is online for some time at Youtube.

Here in Denmark the child is just located by the police. It is not returned or detained unless the child has been lured by an adult. If they stay at a shelter or a friend it is up to the social services to negociate the child home. It works very well and it forces the families to work with the social services and not against them.
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