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Difficulties of not giving up
« on: June 14, 2009, 03:43:28 AM »
So, some really un-godly, mind blowingly important things have been taken from me. And it is hard to have the energy to even try. Nothing will ever be good for me, realisticly. Anyone in this position? How do you find the energy and will to try?
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #1 on: June 14, 2009, 10:49:36 AM »
I've been in this position and honestly I don't know how I managed. I just kept going to work/school, getting up in the morning, and going about my every day routine until I figured it out.

Wasn't easy.. it took time.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #2 on: June 14, 2009, 05:20:33 PM »
Personally I despise AA after voluntarily giving it a try, but one of their hackneyed cliches did leave with me:  "Fake it until you make it".  Not encouraging you to Pollyanna yourself or anything...I think everyone one this forum knows what you're experiencing, and no one has come up with a surefire method to get through the Black Doldrums.  Things can be absolute shit and that's a natural fact, and it's irritating to have a smiley-face telling you to look on the sunny side or some such B.S. There is no sunny side when you're in the pit.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #3 on: June 14, 2009, 10:15:37 PM »
Yes, AA doesn't do much for a man or woman. The falseness of it frankly sells itself to me as creepy. My specific hole wasn't climbed out of by me being fake. I managed to keep going with my life, but I certainly wasn't enjoying it either.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #4 on: June 14, 2009, 11:20:09 PM »
Hey, lets not turn this into an AA thread :) :rasta:
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #5 on: June 14, 2009, 11:35:43 PM »
Quote from: "Guest"
Personally I despise AA after voluntarily giving it a try, but one of their hackneyed cliches did leave with me:  "Fake it until you make it".  Not encouraging you to Pollyanna yourself or anything...I think everyone one this forum knows what you're experiencing, and no one has come up with a surefire method to get through the Black Doldrums.  Things can be absolute shit and that's a natural fact, and it's irritating to have a smiley-face telling you to look on the sunny side or some such B.S. There is no sunny side when you're in the pit.

Faking it is what I am trying to do , but failing pretty miserably. :(
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #6 on: June 15, 2009, 02:09:08 AM »
This may sound like a stupid question, but what are you telling yourself?
Are the majority of your thoughts  along the lines of "things will never get any better, I'm always going to feel this bad, nothing good ever happens.."?
Not to oversimplify, but our belief creates our reality. It's easier for some of us to support and encourage others, yet so difficult to support and encourage ourselves. I have had some horrible losses in my life, one that rocked me so hard I didn't know if I would make it, but I'm still here and  life is good. I give myself credit for what I have lived through and when things get rough, I try to remember to treat myself with love and compassion.
Silly to some maybe, but it has worked for me.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #7 on: June 17, 2009, 02:30:10 AM »
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This may sound like a stupid question, but what are you telling yourself?
Are the majority of your thoughts  along the lines of "things will never get any better, I'm always going to feel this bad, nothing good ever happens.."?
Not to oversimplify, but our belief creates our reality. It's easier for some of us to support and encourage others, yet so difficult to support and encourage ourselves. I have had some horrible losses in my life, one that rocked me so hard I didn't know if I would make it, but I'm still here and  life is good. I give myself credit for what I have lived through and when things get rough, I try to remember to treat myself with love and compassion.
Silly to some maybe, but it has worked for me.


Yes i do tell myself that. But it seems very reasonable. Very hopeless
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #8 on: June 17, 2009, 03:36:48 AM »
Yeah, seems so right now. But it's not. Reasonable is that life is up and down no matter who you are or what has happened.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #9 on: June 17, 2009, 11:26:42 AM »
I do just what my illiterate Irish father told me to.I put one foot in front of the other,and try to figure out a solution to my shit.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #10 on: June 18, 2009, 12:56:25 AM »
I'm curious. Why come here for advice? Would you get advice on health food from McDonalds? Same difference.
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #11 on: June 18, 2009, 02:41:19 AM »
Who else would understand? Or even beleive?
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #12 on: July 12, 2009, 01:23:19 AM »
bumped for the insanely stop you in your tracks depression
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #13 on: July 12, 2009, 01:43:45 AM »
Bumper^ Are you feeling this way?
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Re: Difficulties of not giving up
« Reply #14 on: July 12, 2009, 02:42:05 AM »
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Bumper^ Are you feeling this way?

yep.
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