unexpected call for help. Kind of embarrassed to ask.

[try another castle]

I'm extremely red-faced about posting this, since I am totally going to sound like one of "those" parents.

And yes. I am a parent. I don't talk about it, but I am. It's just something I prefer to keep hidden from internet forums and the like.

I actually have two daughters. They are both adopted. (Obviously, since I can't actually make children of my own.)

When my eldest went through her teenage years, she had her bouts of bitchiness, but for the most part, whenever a dispute went down, we could work it out.

However, my youngest has just reached "that age" (adolescent i.e. 14) and has started to get "that way".

Karma is definitely a bitch. I myself was a pain in the ass at that age, but it certainly is different when you are on the other side of this. I am honestly at a loss.

She is downright unruly. I mean, seriously wild. (and  you know that if I feel that way, that's saying something.) She is hyper, destructive, she stays up all hours, never listens to a word I say, gets into such horrid fights with her older sister that I actually have to break them up, and now.. she has started to steal from me. That, I can't abide. (and yes, it really is embarrassing to write this, because this list does sound like what a program parent says about their own kids.)

I am not sure if her being adopted has anything to do with it. (Especially since my eldest is adopted, too.)  She was seven when I became her father. Absolutely nothing is known about her history prior to her adoption. The adoption agency weren't even the ones who rescued her from her previous living situation, so they don't know much. She doesn't talk about it, which worries me. It is apparent, however, that some seriously fucked up shit happened to her, because she has little nervous compulsive habits. (For example, she's a "paper eater". I actually knew a kid like that when I went to school. It's not unheard of.)

Anyway, I really could use some good parenting advice on this, guys. I know this forum really isn't for that, and I know it's kind of uhm.. unexpected, since I've never talked about my kids before.

Placement, is, of course, absolutely not an option. I just need to maybe hear some advice from parents who have been there.

I've also decided, (against my own better judgment) to post a link to her picture, for those doubting Thomases out there. I asked her permission beforehand and she just dismissed me. Seriously, she doesn't care.

This is my daughter, I love her, and I am worried.










Her name is Niku.

[Anonymous]

yeah your cat looks like a real trouble maker.... but i heard the teen phase is like the toddler phase, a need for independence... with toddlers you alter their environment so they can explore it w/o getting hurt... i would apply this to teens... keep your $ and whatever else out of reach? shouldn't be hard to figure out... your older and wiser and should be able to out smart a teen... get creative... poor teens and their unruley hormones

[try another castle]

niku, I know I *do* refer to you as "the cat with hands" but please stay away from my computer.

[FemanonFatal2.0]

Oh my god.

I totally lost the game.

Well on that topic my adopted son was a "floor pooper".

However he was murdered by a drunk driver in a hit and run....

RIP Poopie.

[try another castle]

Oh my god.

I totally lost the game.

Well on that topic my adopted son was a "floor pooper".

However he was murdered by a drunk driver in a hit and run....

RIP Poopie.

My oldest is a floor pooper, too. (It's behavioral. Not medical.) I figured since it's close to the box, she gets an A for effort. It's much easier to clean poop off the floor than it is to change a cat's behavior.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she needs to get laid in a hurry. You'd be surprised at the emotional healing powers of the penis. I recommend sending her to as many late-night parties as possible and let nature take its course.

Putting her in front of a webcam and /b/ also has its benefits.

Alternatively if you want to use terror, well, there's always Fornits.

[Anonymous]

AND YES, I KNOW IT'S A CAT, AND ALL THREE OF THE ABOVE STILL APPLY.

[try another castle]

Sounds like she needs to get laid in a hurry. You'd be surprised at the emotional healing powers of the penis. I recommend sending her to as many late-night parties as possible and let nature take its course.

Maybe she's upset that she's fixed?

[FemanonFatal2.0]

"the emotional healing powers of the penis."

bahahahahaha....

 

[Anonymous]

meh

[Anonymous]

you might want to look into functional family therapy. It may be one of these things that you just have to ride out. How is she at school? If hings are going OK there all is not lost

[psy]

you might want to look into functional family therapy. It may be one of these things that you just have to ride out. How is she at school? If hings are going OK there all is not lost

LOL... FFT for CATS??

scroll down... lol

[Anonymous]

http://http://www.amazon.com/Cat-Who-Cried-Help-Psychology/dp/0553378546/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1239588360&sr=1-1

[try another castle]

http://http://www.amazon.com/Cat-Who-Cried-Help-Psychology/dp/0553378546/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1239588360&sr=1-1

lol.

Niku cries for everything. "I want food." "What's that thing over there?" "Hello, I'm in the bathroom." "Have I mentioned that I'm a cat?"

[try another castle]

you might want to look into functional family therapy. It may be one of these things that you just have to ride out. How is she at school? If hings are going OK there all is not lost

LOL... FFT for CATS??

scroll down... lol

I can see it now...

"Niku, now tell your dad how it makes you feel when he doesn't give you your kibble on time. Niku? .. Niku? .. Now Niku, I understand that invisible things in the corner are interesting and important to you, but please focus for a moment. Look at the keys Niku. Look at the keys. That's a good girl. See the keys? Come get the keys!"