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Founder's Findings
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---Founder's Findings #7: Emphasize "principles over personalities" in your parenting.
10/7/2008
This is powerfully illustrated by an episode one morning when our son Malcolm was about three. I was late for class, and he had crawled into bed with Blanche, watching me frantically trying to get dressed. I was increasingly frustrated by not finding what I needed, so when I opened the drawer filled with socks, none of which matched, I finally exploded. I started angrily throwing them on the floor: "I wish [throw] I had [throw] two socks [throw] that matched!" Whereupon Mal said, "If you act that way about it, you won't get any!" Blanche threw the sheet up over her head, and I stood there like a chastened child.
The story highlights that even at this early age, children are capable of seeing beyond our dominant parental personalities to grasp our principles and values. Since we ourselves are imperfect, we must teach our kids that our principles are their ultimate authority, not us.
- Joseph Gauld
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Cute. Joey tells a dirty joke. If he hadn't "got any", there wouldn't be a little Mal!
Ursus:
Founder's Findings #8: Help children transcend their lesser "wants."
10/14/2008
Parents must teach their children how to determine the difference between their growth needs—what they must gain to become the great individuals they were meant to be—and their wants—what they desire that may sometimes hinder their best growth.
Children are born with primal "want" instincts that parents must help them transcend:
* Self-gratification—the potential tyranny of desires and addictions. Constantly instill in children the habit of delayed gratification—work before play; vegetables before dessert; hard before easy, etc.
* Self-protection—the potential tyranny of fear. Encourage children to be open, to take risks, to face bullies, etc. Courage is the source of our individuality.
* Self-centeredness—the potential tyranny of narcissism. Continually make children aware, respectful of and helpful to others. We were meant to help others in life.
- Joseph Gauld
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: "Ursus" ---Founder's Findings #8: Help children transcend their lesser "wants."
10/14/2008
Parents must teach their children how to determine the difference between their growth needs—what they must gain to become the great individuals they were meant to be—and their wants—what they desire that may sometimes hinder their best growth.
Children are born with primal "want" instincts that parents must help them transcend:
* Self-gratification—the potential tyranny of desires and addictions. Constantly instill in children the habit of delayed gratification—work before play; vegetables before dessert; hard before easy, etc.
* Self-protection—the potential tyranny of fear. Encourage children to be open, to take risks, to face bullies, etc. Courage is the source of our individuality.
* Self-centeredness—the potential tyranny of narcissism. Continually make children aware, respectful of and helpful to others. We were meant to help others in life.
- Joseph Gauld
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If you don't eat yer meat, you can't have any pudding. How can you have ...
Anonymous:
Most children seem to "transcend" those primal "want" instincts with but little help from anyone, just by growing up. Joe seems to be still working on his transcendence, however.
Is Hyde School just one big rationalization for Joe's attempts to grow up and learn about himself? What an expensive playground.
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: "Scuba Duz" ---Most children seem to "transcend" those primal "want" instincts with but little help from anyone, just by growing up. Joe seems to be still working on his transcendence, however.
Is Hyde School just one big rationalization for Joe's attempts to grow up and learn about himself? What an expensive playground.
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Good point. Kids have been growing up long before '66 or '67. We have a case of the rooster claiming credit for the sunrise here.
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