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Ursus:
Apparently, Joe Gauld started a series of pontifications bearing this title, starting last August. Here are at least some of them (not all appear to be available), for your edification and critique:

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Founder's Findings #1: 1st Parental Precedent
8/26/2008

At birth, nature presents us with a fully functioning human being. However, that baby is totally dependent upon us, even for its survival. So after this child’s childhood and adolescence period, nature then expects us as parents to present it to the world as a fully functioning adult!

This means we have a lot of work to do as parents in a limited space of time, much of which our growing child will not understand, and sometimes not even agree with as necessary. So our basic relationship to our child must always be that of mentor to student, sometimes requiring us to even act like a dictator.

Thus, we must shun a friendship with our child; friendships are 50-50, which will undermine our critical mentorship of our child. Children will eventually not only understand this difference, but come to deeply trust us, because they know nothing will ever compromise our commitment to their future, not even our desire for their love.
                                                                                                                               
- Joseph Gauld

Anonymous:

--- Quote ---So our basic relationship to our child must always be that of mentor to student, sometimes requiring us to even act like a dictator.
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I'm so surprised to read this. He always struck me as such a kind, reasonable old man at the FLCs.















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Anonymous:

--- Quote ---sometimes requiring us to even act like a dictator
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 Or sometimes requires us to rationalize our personal predilections to be a dick. At 80 some odd years I admire Joey's stamina as expressed in his ability to tolerate the sounds of his own banality.  I would have shut up a long time ago.

NHB

Anonymous:

--- Quote ---Thus, we must shun a friendship with our child; friendships are 50-50, which will undermine our critical mentorship of our child. Children will eventually not only understand this difference, but come to deeply trust us, because they know nothing will ever compromise our commitment to their future, not even our desire for their love.
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Outside of the fact that friendships are rarely "50-50," and that mentorship and friendship do not by definition nor by any other means necessarily preclude each other, I want to know where is it preordained that a kid should "come to deeply trust" someone who is that hell-bent on maintaining control in the relationship?

When it comes to truth and reality, Joe Gauld and Hyde School have compromised plenty a kid, not to mention totally fucked them over. "Commitment to their future" would be a bald-faced flaming LIE in those cases.

Ursus:
On to the second one. I can see that Joe's mathematical skills are being put to good use here. I hate to be the one to break the news, but the nuances of real life do not always fit so neatly into such rigid partitions of time. Moreover, and this is strictly my opinion, there really isn't anything pathological or even abnormal about that.

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Founder's Findings #2: 2nd Parental Precedent
9/2/2008

Of all living species, we humans have by far the longest preparation for life -- 19 years! In reality, children today often take an even longer period, with many returning home after college. Clearly, this is not what nature had in mind. The child who begins to take responsibility for his/her life at, say, age 25, will essentially always be six years behind the one who begins that responsibility at age 19.

Since the parent begins with 100% responsibility at birth, the challenge is to turn over 51% of that responsibility to the child over a 19 year period. Thus, the parent needs to become very tolerant of the child's struggles and mistakes. Adolescence is the practice field of life; isn't it far safer and more productive to make your mistakes on the practice field than in the game of life?

This means we parents need to focus more on growth than achievement, with a better appreciation of the value of struggles and mistakes.

- Joseph Gauld

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