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« on: November 20, 2007, 08:26:39 PM »
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If you were never in a program, or a parent of a child in a program, then you have no business posting here.

What a crock of shit. What a sorry-ass, lame attempt makes here to exclude someone who disagrees with her highness.  :roll:  :roll:  

Hey CCM, there are people from the program (i'll just call it that) who I'd rather not meet up with solely because they behaved like total assholes or I just plain didn't like them... I'd much rather read some of Niles' posts (or posts by someone else who wasn't in a program, but understands something about their true nature) than a program apologist whore like yourself, dontchaknow.

I could give a shit whether or not you're a survivor, fuck off!!
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« Reply #1 on: November 20, 2007, 08:37:42 PM »
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Quote from: ""CCM girl 1989""
If you were never in a program, or a parent of a child in a program, then you have no business posting here.
What a crock of shit. What a sorry-ass, lame attempt makes here to exclude someone who disagrees with her highness.  :roll:  :roll:  

Hey CCM, there are people from the program (i'll just call it that) who I'd rather not meet up with solely because they behaved like total assholes or I just plain didn't like them... I'd much rather read some of Niles' posts (or posts by someone else who wasn't in a program, but understands something about their true nature) than a program apologist whore like yourself, dontchaknow.

I could give a shit whether or not you're a survivor, fuck off!!


Why do you care? It's not to someone who just "disagrees" with, it's to someone who relentlessly insults her and has a blurb aimed at her. This woman isn't correct in her beleifs, but she's just being turned into the group scapegoat. Just be civil, or ignore her. She's not the enemy, or important, ya' know?
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« Reply #2 on: November 20, 2007, 08:43:59 PM »
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Why do you care? It's not to someone who just "disagrees" with, it's to someone who relentlessly insults her and has a blurb aimed at her. This woman isn't correct in her beleifs, but she's just being turned into the group scapegoat. Just be civil, or ignore her. She's not the enemy, or important, ya' know?

I'll agree with your comment as to her unimportance. As to why do I bother....heck, I guess it's just fun to rattle her gilded cage a little...
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« Reply #3 on: November 20, 2007, 10:10:11 PM »
I like how I can troll without even being here now.

Keep up the good work!  :rofl:
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« Reply #4 on: November 20, 2007, 10:15:39 PM »
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Quote from: ""Guest""
Why do you care? It's not to someone who just "disagrees" with, it's to someone who relentlessly insults her and has a blurb aimed at her. This woman isn't correct in her beleifs, but she's just being turned into the group scapegoat. Just be civil, or ignore her. She's not the enemy, or important, ya' know?

EDIT: Wait a minute..."not the enemy"?

I'd say that's somewhat debatable...
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« Reply #5 on: November 20, 2007, 10:41:00 PM »
Its funny, this takes me back about two years when I was having a discussion with Niles and he mentioned something to the effect that he thought it could be possible if the right conditions existed that a TBS would work for some kids…and you would have thought he was a dam EdCon by the way people on here jumped on his butt for even thinking out of the box that way….. he changed his tune and got right back in step real quick and has never stepped over the line since.

Now I see CCM speaking her mind and the exact same thing happened, only this time the person refused to be bullied by the group and she held her ground and is thinking independently…. She isn’t trashing you guys or saying you never suffered or are lying about what happened to you..CCM is telling you what happened to her, her story and how it affected her life.  Just because it doesn’t fit into your group definitions or group think doesn’t mean her experience carries any less weight or is any less credible.

You need to accept that every person is different and reacts differently to the same situation and will come away from it with a different perspective (or take).  You cant expect every person to conform to the same way of thinking even if they experienced the same stimuli or went thru similar experiences.  You should loosen up your standards of being accepted as a survivor and allow them to speak openly about their individual experiences… the good that came from attending a TBS along with the bad.  To continuously restrict and berate each other into singing the mantra (thinking in absolutes)that all schools are abusive, all programs are the same, not one child has ever benefitted from attending a wilderness or TBS in 30 years.  Kids who say they benefitted are in denial and you shouldn’t believe them.  You are all fooling yourselves if you think parents believe your pitch that 100% of the kids fail while the industry is growing exponentially.

The GAO investigation isn’t going to shut the industry down, if anything the investigation is going to strengthen the industry by cutting out and exposing some bad sections/programs and then ultimately identifying a new and acceptable direction.  No one has suggested that the kids don’t need to be there.  We just need to improve on the institutions and make them more effective for the children.

Ps Sorry (in advance), CCM, seems every time I say something in support of you you end up shouldering the wrath of their anger, most of which is probably intended for me.



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« Reply #6 on: November 21, 2007, 05:45:28 PM »
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Its funny, this takes me back about two years when I was having a discussion with Niles and he mentioned something to the effect that he thought it could be possible if the right conditions existed that a TBS would work for some kids…and you would have thought he was a dam EdCon by the way people on here jumped on his butt for even thinking out of the box that way….. he changed his tune and got right back in step real quick and has never stepped over the line since.

Now I see CCM speaking her mind and the exact same thing happened, only this time the person refused to be bullied by the group and she held her ground and is thinking independently…. She isn’t trashing you guys or saying you never suffered or are lying about what happened to you..CCM is telling you what happened to her, her story and how it affected her life.  Just because it doesn’t fit into your group definitions or group think doesn’t mean her experience carries any less weight or is any less credible.

You need to accept that every person is different and reacts differently to the same situation and will come away from it with a different perspective (or take).  You cant expect every person to conform to the same way of thinking even if they experienced the same stimuli or went thru similar experiences.  You should loosen up your standards of being accepted as a survivor and allow them to speak openly about their individual experiences… the good that came from attending a TBS along with the bad.  To continuously restrict and berate each other into singing the mantra (thinking in absolutes)that all schools are abusive, all programs are the same, not one child has ever benefitted from attending a wilderness or TBS in 30 years.  Kids who say they benefitted are in denial and you shouldn’t believe them.  You are all fooling yourselves if you think parents believe your pitch that 100% of the kids fail while the industry is growing exponentially.

The GAO investigation isn’t going to shut the industry down, if anything the investigation is going to strengthen the industry by cutting out and exposing some bad sections/programs and then ultimately identifying a new and acceptable direction.  No one has suggested that the kids don’t need to be there.  We just need to improve on the institutions and make them more effective for the children.

Ps Sorry (in advance), CCM, seems every time I say something in support of you you end up shouldering the wrath of their anger, most of which is probably intended for me.



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No need to apologize Who. I appreciate the support. There is nothing in your post that I can disagree with. We all have different experiences (for those of us who attended programs). I just wish that some people could get through their heads that there are good programs out there, that do make a positive differences in families lives. I've said all along that not all of my experiences in programs were good. I think I have been one of the most honest people on here about my experiences. I want parents to always try to first, and foremost work things out from home without having to send their child away. But, let's face it......that cannot always happen.

Am I an Ed Con....no. Do I work for any program....no. Do I have any plans to ever have anything to do with the industry.....I cannot say 100% for sure that I won't. I can say that I have no plans to at the moment, or in the near future (I have about 2 more years of school to complete before I decide to do that). If I thought I could make a positive difference in kids lives, I would take a position with a school/program that I believed in.

For the record, I do not believe in "zero tolerance programs". I do not believe in the Tough Love approach especially when it comes to kids who have already been through a lot, and it's very obvious that they are in a great deal of pain, and fragile. I don't think that the more emotionally out of control a teenager is, the more punishment they should receive. I think for kids who are in that much emotional pain, that there is something underlying that's causing that, and the focus should be to try and figure out what "that" is. I don't think trying to break them down is going to do anything but further damage them. If anything, I believe it's a sign they need to be given even more love, and given even more attention.

However, there are some kids who are just spoiled brats, that need to wake up (come on we all know a few!). If that's through a program that holds them accountable with rules, and structure, I don't think that's abusive. I believe that I have been through a great deal, and I could make a difference in kids lives. If that makes me evil in some peoples eyes, so be it! I think that I may come across as a total bitch on here sometimes, but I swear that outside of here I'm really not. I just get pissed off when I can't express an opinion without getting attacked on this board. When it comes to this board I figure why should I treat you with any more respect then you are treating me with? In real life I am quite the opposite. If I am faced with difficult situations instead of getting defensive, I try to kill people with kindness. I try to diffuse situations instead of what I sometimes end up doing here which would be to add fuel to the fire!

I think that programs are going to be held more accountable in 2008. I think this will be a positive year as a whole as far as the industry is concerned. I think that there are people on here that have made that happen. But, there are also some of you that have been pretty damaging with your posts, with your FOUL pictures, and the drama you've brought especially with the whole PURE/ Sue Scheff drama. That alone has caused a lot of problems for this site.

It's not the Who, and I that have made things so awful. It's the fact that a lot of you cannot have a mature debate without getting down, and dirty. Sure, I have done some things that I am not proud of. I have said things that I regret. But, as a whole I think most of what I have ever had to say about programs has been from the heart. I'm not involved in the industry, I have nothing to gain financially from what I say here.

So, anyway......with that have a Happy Thanksgiving. I will not be having turkey since I am a vegetarian, so for the record I will not be crying FOWL!!!!

Peace,

CCM girl
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« Reply #7 on: November 21, 2007, 06:35:12 PM »
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Quote from: ""TheWho""
Its funny, this takes me back about two years when I was having a discussion with Niles and he mentioned something to the effect that he thought it could be possible if the right conditions existed that a TBS would work for some kids…and you would have thought he was a dam EdCon by the way people on here jumped on his butt for even thinking out of the box that way….. he changed his tune and got right back in step real quick and has never stepped over the line since.

Now I see CCM speaking her mind and the exact same thing happened, only this time the person refused to be bullied by the group and she held her ground and is thinking independently…. She isn’t trashing you guys or saying you never suffered or are lying about what happened to you..CCM is telling you what happened to her, her story and how it affected her life.  Just because it doesn’t fit into your group definitions or group think doesn’t mean her experience carries any less weight or is any less credible.

You need to accept that every person is different and reacts differently to the same situation and will come away from it with a different perspective (or take).  You cant expect every person to conform to the same way of thinking even if they experienced the same stimuli or went thru similar experiences.  You should loosen up your standards of being accepted as a survivor and allow them to speak openly about their individual experiences… the good that came from attending a TBS along with the bad.  To continuously restrict and berate each other into singing the mantra (thinking in absolutes)that all schools are abusive, all programs are the same, not one child has ever benefitted from attending a wilderness or TBS in 30 years.  Kids who say they benefitted are in denial and you shouldn’t believe them.  You are all fooling yourselves if you think parents believe your pitch that 100% of the kids fail while the industry is growing exponentially.

The GAO investigation isn’t going to shut the industry down, if anything the investigation is going to strengthen the industry by cutting out and exposing some bad sections/programs and then ultimately identifying a new and acceptable direction.  No one has suggested that the kids don’t need to be there.  We just need to improve on the institutions and make them more effective for the children.

Ps Sorry (in advance), CCM, seems every time I say something in support of you you end up shouldering the wrath of their anger, most of which is probably intended for me.



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No need to apologize Who. I appreciate the support. There is nothing in your post that I can disagree with. We all have different experiences (for those of us who attended programs). I just wish that some people could get through their heads that there are good programs out there, that do make a positive differences in families lives. I've said all along that not all of my experiences in programs were good. I think I have been one of the most honest people on here about my experiences. I want parents to always try to first, and foremost work things out from home without having to send their child away. But, let's face it......that cannot always happen.

Am I an Ed Con....no. Do I work for any program....no. Do I have any plans to ever have anything to do with the industry.....I cannot say 100% for sure that I won't. I can say that I have no plans to at the moment, or in the near future (I have about 2 more years of school to complete before I decide to do that). If I thought I could make a positive difference in kids lives, I would take a position with a school/program that I believed in.

For the record, I do not believe in "zero tolerance programs". I do not believe in the Tough Love approach especially when it comes to kids who have already been through a lot, and it's very obvious that they are in a great deal of pain, and fragile. I don't think that the more emotionally out of control a teenager is, the more punishment they should receive. I think for kids who are in that much emotional pain, that there is something underlying that's causing that, and the focus should be to try and figure out what "that" is. I don't think trying to break them down is going to do anything but further damage them. If anything, I believe it's a sign they need to be given even more love, and given even more attention.

However, there are some kids who are just spoiled brats, that need to wake up (come on we all know a few!). If that's through a program that holds them accountable with rules, and structure, I don't think that's abusive. I believe that I have been through a great deal, and I could make a difference in kids lives. If that makes me evil in some peoples eyes, so be it! I think that I may come across as a total bitch on here sometimes, but I swear that outside of here I'm really not. I just get pissed off when I can't express an opinion without getting attacked on this board. When it comes to this board I figure why should I treat you with any more respect then you are treating me with? In real life I am quite the opposite. If I am faced with difficult situations instead of getting defensive, I try to kill people with kindness. I try to diffuse situations instead of what I sometimes end up doing here which would be to add fuel to the fire!

I think that programs are going to be held more accountable in 2008. I think this will be a positive year as a whole as far as the industry is concerned. I think that there are people on here that have made that happen. But, there are also some of you that have been pretty damaging with your posts, with your FOUL pictures, and the drama you've brought especially with the whole PURE/ Sue Scheff drama. That alone has caused a lot of problems for this site.

It's not the Who, and I that have made things so awful. It's the fact that a lot of you cannot have a mature debate without getting down, and dirty. Sure, I have done some things that I am not proud of. I have said things that I regret. But, as a whole I think most of what I have ever had to say about programs has been from the heart. I'm not involved in the industry, I have nothing to gain financially from what I say here.

So, anyway......with that have a Happy Thanksgiving. I will not be having turkey since I am a vegetarian, so for the record I will not be crying FOWL!!!!

Peace,

CCM girl


Wow, I have defended you quite a bit, but you might work in a program? There are kids who are just spoiled brats? Sure, there are "spolied brats" but there are as many adult brats as kid brats. Do you advocate abducting them and forcing them to be softer through punishment? People have the right to have unpleasant(by your  or family members' definition) personalities.

I have been tortured through-out my life in the name of bettering me.  I am also a vegetarian as I feel no human has the right to cause suffering to a defenseless harmless creasture.

How can you justify tortuing?Do you think the person who defends you, and is sensitive enough to consider the plight of a group that the majority of the world exploits  is a spoiled brat and should be tortured?  Or, even needs to have their personality "remade"? I have been mutilated in the name of remaking my personaility. I think of killing myself on a day to day basis becasue the pain is so intense.

This is precisely what you do when you say that kids should be abducted and taught lessons to remake their personality soley because their parents say so. I Don't understand
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« Reply #8 on: November 22, 2007, 03:25:51 PM »
I said that maybe someday I might consider working for a program. Many, many years from now. It would have to be a program that I believed in though.

You are correct that there are some spoiled adults out there. I really don't care about them so much. You know why? Because, they have years of life experience, and if they choose to be "spoiled brats" as you like to call them, then they suffer themselves in their relationships.....family, business, everything in general.

Teens have more of a chance of getting their lives on tract, if given the right tools. I don't blame the kids a lot of times for being "spoiled brats" it's just their upbringing. Most of the time the parents fault. Sometimes not.

Whatever, I don't have the time to chat. It's Thanksgiving! See ya!
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« Reply #9 on: November 22, 2007, 10:34:56 PM »
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Teens have more of a chance of getting their lives on tract, if given the right tools.

I hear ya! A good coffee enema helps get me back on track by clearing out my tract. Hope this helps...
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« Reply #10 on: November 22, 2007, 11:06:35 PM »
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Quote from: ""CCM girl 1989""

However, there are some kids who are just spoiled brats, that need to wake up (come on we all know a few!). If that's through a program that holds them accountable with rules, and structure, I don't think that's abusive.


 :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:
Who is to blame for spoiling the "brat"??
Why should the "brat" be punished?



When there is a crisis situation it doesn’t do any good to point fingers and argue over whose fault it is.  For example, if your child had a ton of cavities.  Many could speculate that it was due do to their parents feeding them candy, and that may or may not be true but pointing fingers at each other doesn’t do the child any good.  The main thing is to get the child help and if they need to give the child Novocain and drill holes and apply fillings to solve the problem then that’s what needs to be done.  I wouldn’t view it as a form of punishment( but I can see how the child could view it that way) because they are the ones being repaired while the parents are in the waiting room.
The time for speculation and discussion would be after the child has been put back on track (cavities repaired) and then everyone can look back and determine if it was the parents fault for feeding the kid too much candy or maybe the kid didn’t brush their teeth when they were suppose to or was sneaking candy into the house….



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« Reply #11 on: November 22, 2007, 11:15:00 PM »
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Umm what program do you work for......


No program, just didnt want children to feel it was a form of punishment.  They should feel it is more of a healing process for everyone, not just themselves.
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« Reply #12 on: November 22, 2007, 11:35:31 PM »
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Its funny, this takes me back about two years when I was having a discussion with Niles and he mentioned something to the effect that he thought it could be possible if the right conditions existed that a TBS would work for some kids…and you would have thought he was a dam EdCon by the way people on here jumped on his butt for even thinking out of the box that way….. he changed his tune and got right back in step real quick and has never stepped over the line since.


Nice try there.

 :rofl:

I mean, seriously, 8/10 on that one, but anyone with enough memory of your previous attempts to derail, attack, troll, and obfuscate would know its bullshit as soon as you spoke at all. I last got flak for defending CCMGirl.

I'm not against treatment when necessary. I'm not against confinement when its actually necessary either.

I am against unnecessary 'treatment', quack or otherwise, and unnecessary confinement.

This is what my position has always been. :wave:
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« Reply #13 on: November 22, 2007, 11:42:38 PM »
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No program, just didnt want children to feel it was a form of punishment. They should feel it is more of a healing process for everyone, not just themselves.


 ::puke::  ::puke::  ::puke::  ::puke::

Hey everybody! Brutality, isolation, confinement, and torture are part of the HEALING PROCESS!
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« Reply #14 on: November 23, 2007, 12:00:21 AM »
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No program, just didnt want children to feel it was a form of punishment. They should feel it is more of a healing process for everyone, not just themselves.

 ::puke::  ::puke::  ::puke::  ::puke::

Hey everybody! Brutality, isolation, confinement, and torture are part of the HEALING PROCESS!


I dont think anyone would consider those part of any healing process, nor agree with you.  Brutality, torture etc. would just make matters worse.  There are people who feel these tactics will make kids compliant but they do nothing to heal a person.
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