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« Reply #15 on: May 30, 2003, 11:46:00 AM »
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"This site sure has a lot of experts on how to treat addiction. You should start your own facility(because from this site I see you seem to have the answer.) :???: I wonder how much of the talk here about Pathway is a proven fact (and not from someone who was in the program and did'nt complete it.)"


That is expert advice from an expert on mothering and battling with drug addiction. I'm not claiming to do anything except share my experience, and give advice based on that.
I've been there. He won't hate you for trying to protect him, but he might not forgive & forget being "put away" when other choices could have been made. Pathway is the easy way out for the parents, at the expense of the degradation of children.
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« Reply #16 on: May 30, 2003, 12:29:00 PM »
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On 2003-05-29 18:41:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Ginger, maybe you should stick to the things you know about and not give advise to someone who really needs help.  You are telling this mother to just let it run its course?  

Actually, now... I told this mother to check with a well known professional psychologist and author who has dealt extensively with addiction and addiction treatment issues for decades. Stanton Peele is well known and well respected in his field. The only people who hate him, that I know of, are the fundie zealots (like PFC ppl) who take offence at the suggestion that their way is not the only way. And I gave her a link to an advocacy group that keeps an eye on abusive and poorly run methadone clinics.

Please remember, both of you (the mom who started this thread and our PFC pundit here) that PFC does NOT employ accepted, successful methods to treat addiction. The program they use is based on the methods developed by Chuck Dederich in the Synanon Church. That was before ol'e Chuck wound up doing prison time for conspiracy to murder after his followers placed a poisonous snake in the mail box of a lawyer who was suing on behalf of a woman who wanted to leave the cult.

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Assuming the person talking about his/her experience at pathway  is a liar.  You sound like the one that is trying to do the brainwashing, maybe you have more in common with all these treatment centers that you despise so much.  Encourage this mom to get help for her son.  

I do assume that some of the people talking about their experience at PFC are lying. I don't see how any reasonable person could come to any other conclusion, seeing as how different people are telling completely contradictory stories.

Here's the thing, though. Ryan and those who agree with him are telling essentially the same story that I lived 20 years ago. This is not surprising, since I already knew that PFC used to be called Straight, Inc. until they were sued and investigated out of business over all the same complaints.  

On the other side, we have Program supporters who are saying just about exactly the same things that Straight supporters used to say away back when and saying it all in the same mean, spiteful, hysterical words that has always characterized this cult.

Here's a good article lifted (by permission) from a book called Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism
by By Robert Jay Lifton, M.D.

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Milieu Control
The most basic feature of the thought reform environment, the psychological current upon which all else depends, is the control of human communication. Through this milieu control the totalist environment seeks to establish domain over not only the individual's communication with the outside (all that he sees and hears, reads or writes, experiences, and expresses), but also - in its penetration of his inner life - over what we may speak of as his communication with himself. It creates an atmosphere uncomfortably reminiscent of George Orwell's 1984.
Full Article: http://www.rickross.com/reference/brain ... ing19.html

You should read that. In fact, buy the book or see if they have it at the library. It may save you years of stumbling around figuring things out for yourself. And these are precious years, kid! More than any other time in your life, the choices you make now will set the stage for, not only your future, but that of your kids and grandkids and even the community in which you live.

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God, grant this mother the wisdom to talk with someone who knows what they are talking about.

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The last struggles of a great superstition are very frequently the worst.
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« Reply #17 on: May 30, 2003, 06:53:00 PM »
the first thing to do is call ISAC and talk to them.  You could save over at least $40,000. by taking some time off work and following the kid around or pay some one to. Get him to a good Psychotherapist 4-5 times a week.  Let him read this web-site.  Does he know that some places out of the state will come and get him in the middle of the night?  Don't let him go into Pathway and stay with HOST parents who were never given foster parent instruction.  Dear God their kids are addicts and with their help. Sorry but its true. Hire a social worker to help you set up a contract with him.  Geez its a lot of work but he needs to not have the added humiliation, shame, guilt, horrible anxiety that Pathway will give him.
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« Reply #18 on: May 31, 2003, 01:04:00 PM »
Going through a problem does not make one an expert. It makes one experienced with that particular problem in that individual case.

Giving advice is helpful, but billing oneself as an "expert" when one has only one's own personal experience or the experiences of those around them, rather than experience plus multiple degrees in the field of adolescent treatment or psychology, is being frighteningly similar to the program.

To think of oneself as an expert, is having the same mentality as the program when you say to yourself that you only want "to help" so you make yourself sound more credible and more important by alleging to have all the answers, and assistance when really, you don't.

You have your own personal experience to share.
It makes you experienced, willing to help, and concerned with others, but it doesn't make you an expert by any stretch of the imagination.

Lose sight of this and you could become the very thing you are fighting against.
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« Reply #19 on: May 31, 2003, 01:29:00 PM »
"Going through a problem does not make one an expert. It makes one experienced with that particular problem in that individual case."

Thanks, Anonymous #596, for putting it into words. I've never held myself to be an expert at anything but website development, and even at that, I'm self taught and only expert in a small niche.

Whatever advice I may give or opinions I may express, are just that, no more, no less. As far as I know, the 'expert' tag has always come as an accusation from people who don't like the advice that some of us give. But I don't think any of us are holding ourselves out as experts. At least, I've never taken it that way.
 

"Our friends and allies in the Middle East and Europe will soon be subject to forms of intimidation by an Iraqi government bent on dominating the Middle East and its oil reserves,"
http://www.sptimes.com/' target='_new'>Project for the New American Century (were they talking about themselves?)

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« Reply #20 on: May 31, 2003, 03:03:00 PM »
You misunderstand completely
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On 2003-05-31 10:04:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Going through a problem does not make one an expert. It makes one experienced with that particular problem in that individual case.

Giving advice is helpful, but billing oneself as an "expert" when one has only one's own personal experience or the experiences of those around them, rather than experience plus multiple degrees in the field of adolescent treatment or psychology, is being frighteningly similar to the program.

To think of oneself as an expert, is having the same mentality as the program when you say to yourself that you only want "to help" so you make yourself sound more credible and more important by alleging to have all the answers, and assistance when really, you don't.

You have your own personal experience to share.

It makes you experienced, willing to help, and concerned with others, but it doesn't make you an expert by any stretch of the imagination.

Lose sight of this and you could become the very thing you are fighting against.


"That is *expert advice from an expert on mothering and battling with drug addiction. I'm not claiming to do anything except share my experience, and give advice based on that."

*MEANING: I have a lot of experience.

It's obvious why I used sarcasm there. If you don't know why or can't tell why, you yourself need to lighten up a bit. It's an exaggerated figure of speech.

I'm also an expert butt wiper.
Does this make me self centered as well?
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« Reply #21 on: May 31, 2003, 05:58:00 PM »
Me lighten up? What about you! What I said was not said in a hostile manner. Perhaps I misunderstood your "sarcasm." But do you blame me?

And Antigen I wasn't talking to you. Sorry for the confusion.

Man:exclaim:  I'll just tuck my tail in and go now.  :roll:
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« Reply #22 on: May 31, 2003, 06:12:00 PM »
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On 2003-05-31 14:58:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Me lighten up? What about you! What I said was not said in a hostile manner. Perhaps I misunderstood your "sarcasm." But do you blame me?"
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"Perhaps I misunderstood your "sarcasm." But do you blame me?" - Blame you for what?...lol

The comment was directed towards the author of:

"This site sure has a lot of experts on how to treat addiction. You should start your own facility(because from this site I see you seem to have the answer.)  I wonder how much of the talk here about Pathway is a proven fact (and not from someone who was in the program and did'nt complete it."

Again, lighten up.
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« Reply #23 on: June 02, 2003, 09:48:00 AM »
This graduation thing is so ridiculous.  What ?? do you put it on a resume?  What good is it.  You were forced to do it. Geeez
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« Reply #24 on: June 02, 2003, 06:49:00 PM »
I swear to God, until I started coming out from under the ether a bit, I thought it would have been impressive.

Here's the thing, though. In some places among some people (like law enforcement, for example) it WAS impressive.

When the government's boot is on your throat, whether it is a left boot or a right boot is of no consequence.
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« Reply #25 on: June 02, 2003, 07:57:00 PM »
U see u still try to sound so smart.  U only kidding yourself.
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« Reply #26 on: June 02, 2003, 10:56:00 PM »
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On 2003-05-29 18:41:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Ginger, maybe you should stick to the things you know about and not give advise to someone who really needs help.  You are telling this mother to just let it run its course?  Assuming the person talking about his/her experience at pathway  is a liar.  You sound like the one that is trying to do the brainwashing, maybe you have more in common with all these treatment centers that you despise so much.  Encourage this mom to get help for her son.  



God, grant this mother the wisdom to talk with someone who knows what they are talking about.

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You know, some people think there's something at least a little neurotic about talking to yourself. I wonder what Freud would make out of you're other personality being female?

A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.
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« Reply #27 on: June 05, 2003, 02:42:00 AM »
"I wonder how much of the talk here about Pathway is a proven fact (and not from someone who was in the program and did'nt complete it.)"

first of all i just want to say that no matter what this parent decides to do i hope that they get their child help regardless if for some fucked up reason it is pathway...which i also do believe that they are not qualified to help certain individuals with particular problems. there are several other places that will help this child, ultimately and unfortunately it is up to the child wheather he stops or not. ok now on to what i want to say. fuck you whoever wrote that because i did complete that fucken program and i ademately agree with a vast majoraty of what these people say about pathway. so it is not just the people not completing the program saying this shit.  

The most important bill in our whole code is that for the diffusion of
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« Reply #28 on: June 05, 2003, 01:25:00 PM »
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On 2003-06-04 23:42:00, nakid2003 wrote:

""I wonder how much of the talk here about Pathway is a proven fact (and not from someone who was in the program and did'nt complete it.)"



first of all i just want to say that no matter what this parent decides to do i hope that they get their child help regardless if for some fucked up reason it is pathway...which i also do believe that they are not qualified to help certain individuals with particular problems. there are several other places that will help this child, ultimately and unfortunately it is up to the child wheather he stops or not. ok now on to what i want to say. fuck you whoever wrote that because i did complete that fucken program and i ademately agree with a vast majoraty of what these people say about pathway. so it is not just the people not completing the program saying this shit.  

The most important bill in our whole code is that for the diffusion of
knowledge among the people. No other sure foundation can be devised, for the preservation of freedom and happiness.

--Thomas Jefferson


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Indykid,
You sure are right about that one! Your words are an inspiration.
Thanks,
Morli

36 months
(I was in a 'boot camp' before Straight Inc)
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