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Offline 3BeanSalad

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One reason why many of us are "screwed up" now...
« on: May 03, 2007, 10:37:43 AM »
"The emotional development of children is intimately connected to the safety and nurturance provided by their enviornment"

Bessel Van Der Kolk - Harvard Medical School psychiatrist

We were programmed and taught we were in a safe enviornment and airing all of our dirty laundry as well as screaming about everyone elses dirty laundry was the norm.  We were programmed to believe that being intimate with the opposite sex was wrong, and we were programmed to believe we had "special" tools nobody else had unless they were a Cedu/RMA graduate.  This list could go on and on and on.  The point is is that the program we went through was WRONG and DAMAGING, and 20 years later many of us are dysfunctional and suffering from P.T.S.D. for starters.  

The above quote was the chapter heading for a book I just finished.  I read it and it was like an enormous slap in the face.  It made my personal "dysfunctional aspects" make sense as well as ALL of my dysfunctional aspects as a result of my childhood based on what I was taught by RMA, Cedu, and my parents...

Somehow that quote helped me a little after I re-read it a few times and soothed me to a degree and reinforced that not everything was MY fault...  I posted today because I hope this may bring a little comfort - no matter how minute - to the rest of us struggling through life.

Indeed this quote will be brought up when I see my shrink tomorrow.

Have a good day, everyone.
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One reason why many of us are "screwed up" now...
« Reply #1 on: May 05, 2007, 11:24:19 PM »
I've been on here saying all that for ages.
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