Are there any good schools that don't cost and arm & leg

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, this forum is for awareness.  Letting parents know there are options out there is part of that awareness.

[Anonymous]

I feel for you.  Went through similar problems with my daughter .  Her behavior was tearing our lives apart.  Every time the phone would ring my heart would sink.  She is now 17 and seems to have grown out of it.  But not before it cost me my marriage.  I wanted to send our daughter to a standard boarding school (not the behavioral type) but my husband did not.  He traveled alot on business and wasn't here to have to deal with the daily choas that she was causing.  That left me to deal with the counseling appointments, meetings at school, etc.  It was actually my husband that left because I had nothing inside left to give him.  Throwing a divorce on top of the problems we already had with our daughter just made things worse.  Thank God we didn't have any other kids.

[Anonymous]

That's absolutely horrible. Sounds like you weren't that dedicated to the marriage to begin with. At least your daughter is better now.

[str8isabuse]

your daughter may have thrown the zoloft away because of side effects of that medication.  zoloft is marketed as one of the new ssri anti-depressants with relatively few side effects, but each patient reacts differently and some people do in fact have unpleasant side effects.  you should talk to her and her psychiatrist about this and consider trying a second or third medication instead.  it takes time to find the right one.  she is too young to understand this.

sending your daughter away may temporarily ease the stress in your life, but it will hurt her terribly in the long run unless you send her to a fantastic place that she falls in love with, thrives at, and allows her to maintain close communication (unmonitored) with you at all times.  typically you get what you pay for, so i doubt most of us could ever afford the perfect place.  in any event, if you send her away, she will know that you abandoned her, and this will scar her for life.  like it or not, she is your daughter and you owe her support and yes, even love at this point in her life.  you really only have a few years left in which you can play a significant role in her life.  

a consultation with the obgyn about pms and hormonal imbalance is a good idea as her hormones fluctuate quite a bit during the month, affecting her mood significantly.  taking a fun, relaxing trip to a place you both would enjoy for some bonding is a wonderful idea.  try to remember her good points, talk about her recent difficulties and tell her you are worried and want to help.  she may be concerned also if she is in as much trouble as you have indicated.

good luck to you.



[ This Message was edited by: str8isabuse on 2003-04-17 15:21 ]

[Anonymous]

http://www.mercyministries.com/mm_whoweare.html

This is the link to Mercy Ministries who we are page.
Again, I have no first hand knowledge, but have herd very good things.

[Anonymous]

they are based out of nashville TN. this is a volentary program only! communication is encouraged and unmonitered and kept open. Example saterdays you can call in all day and your daughter is allowed to make 2 phone calles on sunday as well. there is also no time limits on calls, that does not mean talk all day but you get the point. Your daughter must interview for the program if she is accepted it is FREE. They are christain based just so you know. I have heard good things about them too. So i reserched them and that is how i know about Mercy, just incase you was wondering. I forgot to say Mon throught FRI phone calls are not allowed unless it is a emergancy, my guess is that they dont want to interfear with school and the programs functiuons during the week. hope this helps.

thanks devlin

[FaceKhan]

It sounds like your daughter is already severely depressed. Sending her away will almost certainly make it worse. In general forcing someone into any kind of institution, even a traditional one or a "perfect one" is generally more harmful than good.

If the zoloft were really working for her and not causing unwanted side effects she probably would not be refusing it. Having been depressed myself, I can tell you that if there was a magic pill out there that would have made me feel better without causing a lot of negative side effects I would have taken it.

Maybe you should look into switching to a therapist that will respect your daughters wishes to work through her problems without drugs.

At one point my therapist let me call him every morning at 6am when I had to wake up to get to school. If he had just told me to pop a pill every morning I doubt I would have had as much success.

At 90-200 bucks an hour you should be getting more than a pill dispensary in a therapist.

"Whats the difference between a psychiatric drug and a placebo? One of them has unwanted side-effects"

[Anonymous]

man, just dont send her to a wwasps program, and if you do send her off, make sure you research it thoroughly and know exactly where shes going and how it is, and ask yourself if you would be able to handle being there yourself. get firsthand experiences from teens like me about it. here's some 1st hand experience: i would do any event in my life over again before going back to the wwasp program. it is awful and no one should have to go through it. now i pity you if you send her there because you know that it's horrible now. sending her to a relative's is a good idea too if youre looking for an environment change, there are many other options than just letting some other people that you dont know take care of the situation. be creative. my advise is forget the whole behavior modification school idea. you cant change anyone who doesnt want to change, and trying to makes things worse and brings unnecessary drama.