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« Reply #30 on: February 22, 2007, 08:19:10 PM »
Who is this celebrity of which you speak?
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« Reply #31 on: February 22, 2007, 08:24:03 PM »
Not telling.  :P
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« Reply #32 on: February 24, 2007, 04:29:17 PM »
Castle: This is a trite but sincere question. Can gays be sexually attracted to opposite sex?  How does that work?  And, why do many lesbians hook up with women who look like the men they aren't attracted to? Do they really just want a man with a pussy?  Just a question.  I know you ain't a lesbo, but I am really curious about this and I don't want to offend my Aunt by asking her!
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« Reply #33 on: February 24, 2007, 10:49:23 PM »
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Castle: This is a trite but sincere question. Can gays be sexually attracted to opposite sex?  How does that work?  And, why do many lesbians hook up with women who look like the men they aren't attracted to? Do they really just want a man with a pussy?  Just a question.  I know you ain't a lesbo, but I am really curious about this and I don't want to offend my Aunt by asking her!


Well, first of all, I'm bi, but I like to say fag because it is so much more of a fun word to say. Fag fag faggoty fag.

You're asking a question that is most likely going to launch me into one of my tirades about identity politics. What you ask touches upon a larger issue, so here I go.

I think that to a certain extent, identity politics were helpful in the past, in exposing the oppression that occurred against people who didn't sleep with the opposite sex. However, my whole beef is that it seems rather pointless and counterproductive at this time to base such a significant portion of one's identity off of who you fuck, you know? I mean, it's just who you fuck. For a lot of people, the minute they realize they are sexually interested in someone who counters their sexual identity, there is a personal crisis, which is ridiculous, causes way to much heartache, and wastes a whole lot of time that could have been spent fucking.

My point is this. We can't help who we are attracted to. You can't force yourself to like someone you don't, and it's a pretty bad idea to repress your feelings for someone you DO like. If a lesbian likes butch dykes but doesn't like men who may act like their lover, than that is the way it is. I also know people who identified as gay and fell in love with someone of the opposite sex, and not through coercion or anything like that, it just happened. I know others who lived most of their lives straight, but happened to have their head turned by someone of the same gender, and they fell for them. What about the person whose partner changes their sex? Do they stop loving them because they are a different gender? Does that change these people's sexuality, their identity? My vote: who the fuck cares? Let's just dump this shit already and fuck whoever we want without all of the hangups about what it makes us.

When I was a woman, I loved only women. Had no interest in men whatsoever. Then, when I changed my sex and became a man, I started finding myself intensely attracted to men. This was not a conscious political choice to "remain queer", it just fucking happened. I took it in stride, and joked about it. I didn't care. Then further down the line, a wonderful woman turned my head, and I fell for her hard. So obviously, if one were to ascribe an identity, it would be bi, however, I don't really give it much thought. I prefer the term "equal opportunity". I call myself bi just for linguistic ease, but I really don't base a huge portion of my identity off of it. Like I said, it's just who I fuck. It's not a lifestyle, it doesn't dictate who my friends are, it doesn't dictate what neighborhood I live in, it doesn't dictate what kind of job I want, and it certainly doesn't dictate whether or not I should be in a fucking parade.

I should reiterate that we wouldn't be at this point if it weren't for identity politics to begin with. I wouldn't have the luxury to fuck who I wanted without fear of persecution without  people fighting for queer rights. But as of now, it's obsolete, and dare I say, harmful. To everyone who fucks.

I think that when someone ascribes an identity to their sexuality, whether it be gay or straight, they are pigeonholing themselves and potentially limiting their fun factor. Because god forbid should they encounter someone who challenges their identity but gets them hot at the same time, they could miss a golden opportunity because they are so fucking worried about how this affects who they are and what label they have given themselves. Isn't that sad?


In short: Who you fuck is not who you are.


P.S. If a lesbian wants a man with a pussy, they know just where to find me.



Also.. if you're really interested, check out the book "The End of Gay (And the Death of Heterosexuality)" It's a pretty good read.
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« Reply #34 on: February 24, 2007, 11:06:22 PM »
What is this disscussion about I'm new here
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« Reply #35 on: February 25, 2007, 12:05:53 AM »
F2M bi-fag?

:wave: hi fag!
:wave: bye fag!

 :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:

Btw, when was the reassignment?
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« Reply #36 on: February 25, 2007, 12:44:47 AM »
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F2M bi-fag?

:wave: hi fag!
:wave: bye fag!

 :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:  :rofl:

Btw, when was the reassignment?


 :rofl:  :rofl:

Depends on what part of the reassignment you are talking about.

I transitioned in early 93, started hormones in late 93, and finally got enough money together for my chest surgery in 2001. No lower surgery, it all sucks. I keep my dick in my sock drawer.
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« Reply #37 on: February 25, 2007, 01:00:22 AM »
Well I mean when were you in Cedu relative to all that.

Also, too bad you couldn't STAY in that skirt  ::bangin::
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« Reply #38 on: February 25, 2007, 01:12:26 AM »
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Well I mean when were you in Cedu relative to all that.

Also, too bad you couldn't STAY in that skirt  ::bangin::


Trust me, you wouldn't want to see me in a skirt. Although I do have a very frightening picture of myself in a rubber dress, with orange synth-dreads in my goatee, while wearing 14 eye purple doc martens. (they matched the dress.)

I "graduated" CEDU in 89.

Worst two and a half years of forced drag in my life.
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« Reply #39 on: February 25, 2007, 01:15:05 AM »
Reverse-inside out-upside down drag? I'm confused. Like seriously, not joking around or anything.

Anyway my point with my previous comment is... they just don't make women like you, except accidentally  :roll: and Im bitching.
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« Reply #40 on: February 25, 2007, 01:35:56 AM »
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Reverse-inside out-upside down drag? I'm confused. Like seriously, not joking around or anything.

Anyway my point with my previous comment is... they just don't make women like you, except accidentally  :roll: and Im bitching.



You said a mouthful re: the accidental part. Good lord the screaming I'm going to give my bio-tailor in the netherworld. "You dropped the balls, bitch."

CEDU drag was forcing me to dress as a woman, before I transitioned or even realized that I was a guy. I call it forced drag because that's what it was. I was made to wear dresses and be feminine against my will. I was masculine before I went to CEDU. I acted and walked like a guy. I never once was harassed in high school as a dyke. It was always "are you a boy or a girl?" (They clued in before I did.) When I got to CEDU, all that changed. Being masculine was my "nightmare". It was my "direction" to be feminine. I had to wear girly clothes, except for at work. I had to (try) to make my hair look nice. Yet even with the prissiest dress, I always looked weird. You should see the graduation video of me trying to walk in heels.

Later, when I transitioned and was male, I wasn't beyond putting on some pervert garb just because it fucked with people's heads. I tend to enjoy that. "Yeah, I used to be a girl, but I'm a guy now, but guess what, I'll do fright drag, too, so FUCK YOU, FAGGOT."

I don't do shows or anything, my friend just found some old pervert rubber dresses in his chest that he gave me, and I put them on and took pictures, because I thought it was a laugh riot.

Although I do have a mu mu and a housefrock that I have absolutely no problems wearing around the abode, because they are so wrong.
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« Reply #41 on: February 25, 2007, 01:39:20 AM »
Ah, I get it. Makes sense now.
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« Reply #42 on: February 25, 2007, 10:01:38 AM »
Castle: I asked about the lesbo looking like men question.  And when I'm on my higher plane of humanity, I agee with you that none of it should matter.  Also, I would love to be an equal opportunity lover--more options! But I'm not. Damn! (My Aunt and some of her friends sometimes warn eachother about the pitfalls of falling for an "Anne Heche" and getting their heart broken--it's not all about sex!)

I will say you had me fooled. In all this time,I thought you were a gay guy.  You don't seem to have a female perspective. I never would have guessed you started out female!

Will you ever go for lower surgery? And can you get full erectile functioning from that?  Or is it just a cosmetic dick?
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« Reply #43 on: February 26, 2007, 04:12:16 AM »
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You don't seem to have a female perspective.

Probably because I never had one.

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Will you ever go for lower surgery? And can you get full erectile functioning from that?


Not if things stay the way they are now. It seems that whatever each type of surgery is supposed to "fix", has the potential of breaking something more crucial.

You can get hard, but I think there is some sort of insert that is placed inside. (for phalloplasty)
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« Reply #44 on: February 26, 2007, 08:26:56 AM »
Well, Castle, thanks for indulging my idle curiosity.
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