DARE and the ONDCP will tell you that pot is a gateway to harder drugs. But the Institute of Medicine says that the only way in which pot is a gateway to harder drugs is in the same way that Big Macs are a gateway to french fries; that being the means of distribution. *
True, and I like the analogy and the truth about "the means of distribution" being the common element. Pot itself is not the gateway, but an underlying issue or unmet need that compels a person to want to be high 24/7 is not something to ignore. If the son gets busted,
mandatory court-ordered drug testing could be a gateway to other drugs. So many times my son lamented "why is it that the least harmful drug is the one that stays in your system the longest?" His preference & desire was just to smoke pot, but his fear of violating his probation and having bigger legal consequences encouraged him to try
lots of other substances to satisfy whatever it was that shrinks, psychiatric meds and love & support of friends & family was unable to satisfy. Eventually he got wise about detox kits and I bought him some myself. But by then he had already developed serious issues with other substances that even
he found alarming.
Similarly, these treatments are just as bogus as the fear mongering about pot. Obviously, the conventional wisdumb on drugs and treatment hasn't done your brother in law a whole lot of good. Aside from a fallacious appeal to belief, what makes you and your wife thing this approach will work any better for your son?
Not only the conventional wisdumb, but pretty much all wisdumb on drugs & treatment have failed most people that have tried. The statistics are pretty dismal, no matter what treatment method is used and no matter how much the person wants to lose the monkey. If there were truly effective treatment programs, then those would be the ones raking in millions instead of the mindfuck 'teen help' programs.
My daughters serious troubles did coincide with a change in friends. But correlation isn't causation, as everybody knows.
Correlation isn't causation, but if his son (or your daughter) reached a point where they said, "I want to get out of this mess," then being surrounded by people who exert strong negative influences or even predatory behaviors toward them is going to make it that much tougher. It's hard enough for some people to try to stay clean -- they certainly don't need the added pressure of their usual dealer(s) saying "c'mon, you know you want it. I'll front it to you and you can pay me later." Of course, until someone really wants to be sober (or let's say 'more sober'), all bets are off. It's a tough thing for parents to realize that they have only so much influence and they really can't 'make' their child do anything he or she doesn't want to do.