Psy, this isn't a troll; I can say without much doubt that the post you responded to is, in fact, the poster on ST- it's the same ISP.
I haven't sent any of my children away because I can't!
And you never will.
There is a British poster who occasionally stops by these boards. He is many, many times as smart, politically connected, wily, etc as you are, and he has a number of friends as adamant as he is. You can beat your head against that particular wall all you like; your kids will have grown up, you will REALLY be at your wit's end, and you will not have budged the British system one inch in the direction you wish. Especially since most of the British authorities in charge of such things are horrified at what's being done to kids in America. You know, by the people you post with on ST.
As for an actual solution, let's start here: From your other posts, it looks to me like they're systematically avoiding your home. Why? Step back for a moment. Take a deep breath. Ask "What happens in my home to make my kids avoid it?" How well do you really know your kids? What do they
really think of you? Why? What is going on between you and them? It's very rare that a family with three children is going to have
all three of them come out violent. And where's their father in all this, anyway?
Without details, the only thing I (or anyone) can say for sure is that whatever you're doing, it's not working. Don't do more of it. If you're going to keep trying to discipline, ground, etc them, they're just going to continue to avoid you, and it's not going to end well. Have the people on ST gave you any answers worth a shit? Odds are, no. They don't have any.
I'm not a professional, so I'll just conclude with this: Stop, sit back, and
think. Everything else comes afterwards.
If you can't come up with answers that work on your own, go into a professional psychiatrist's office, even if your kids don't come with you. Sit back, pay the money, swallow your pride, and ask questions of a real professional. His opinion is probably going to matter a lot more than anyone you might meet on the Internet.