Wow, this has been an interesting discussion with several interesting and admirable viewpoints put forth from all sides, in between a bit of typical Fornits sniping.
First of all, I think we can all agree that it is appropriate for us as survivors of Straight to have a memorial for the dead and wounded victims. We are the only people in the world who know what it was like to be in Straight, others, though sympathetic, have no real understanding of the nature of the mindfuck. I think that this memorial is appropriate and honorable.
Also, I agree with what the anon said about many folks who may not want to have their names spoken by someone who could have been a potential abuser. I can see that point; hell, when I was in Straight, most of you, with very few exceptions, were the enemy. There are people I still hold grudges against, grudges I am willing to set aside for the purpose of this memorial. I plan on speaking at the memorial, but do not plan on mentioning anyone by name, for the reasons anon has articulated, but I do think it is entirely appropriate for someone who was a friend of the deceased to make mention of them. Another reason I will not be mentioning anyone specifically is because of the many unknowns involved, and I do not want to lessen the tragedy of someone's death through omitting them. That is why I personally will not be mentioning anyone by name, but will be more than willing to listen to a friend or family member who wishes to memorialize a fallen friend or relative, by name, or anonymously if they so choose.
