My daughter threatened to pull a Columbine.

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BSarro!  Didn't we already discuss the special place in hell for you that God and I picked out?  Here you are maligning people AGAIN!  You're going to hell's wilderness camp, you'll shovel shit 23 hours and get a one hour nap in the shit pile you've made.  Demons will overflow the porta-toilets during that hour to give you more to shovel.  Then you go to High Impact for the summers in Hades.

don't feed the trolls.  bsarro is also bob the "escort" as well.  he's just stirring up shit.

[Anonymous]

My daughter got into a fight with a couple of girls at her High School and threatened to pull a Columbine. I am looking to hire an Ed Con to figure out the best route for her future. Can Anyone reccemend a good Ed Con?

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Many replies, but no subtlety.

Got no beat, can't dance to it.

Julie

[Anonymous]

It would be wrong to assume that there are no fights or hazing in residential programs. Try as you may, you can't put kids in a bubble. Best you can do is help them learn how to live in the real world and deal with difficult people. Isolating them will not accomplish that.

Geesh, I need you to talk to my sister.. She is treating my 17yr old niece like My program taught them kids NEED to be treated. It's sick =(   She has never even been outside her own house alone after dark, never kissed, never drank, never done anything. Yet my sister is punishing her every day, taking things from her (license, car, cell, blow dryer, make-up, etc) It's very sad and scary to me, especially when my niece tells me she felt like blowing her head off during the punishment yelling. It's so sad how parents treat their kids, like criminals. It even happens to polite and innocent kids after the family has been programmed by a program =( I'm scared for her, long term.. and well honestly short term too. I mean, does my sister really wanna take the chance her 17yr old girl will try minor suicide attempts and accidently do it right? WTH are some parents thinking. IMO, It's just not worth the risk. And why waste your kids life making them stressed out and afraid of you? I just don't get it. Poor kid isn't allowed any privacy or shoot, she isn't allowed out in her own yard alone =(

OK, So do I have a serious talk w/ my sister now before it's too late and their relationship is lost? How can I make her understand what she is doing to this kid who has never even kissed a guy? Much less done anything else that could be harmful. I just wanted a good relationship for them, I love them both.

And this isn't a troll... But this thread made me think how I hurt for my niece.

Anyone? ......

[Anonymous]

Assuming you are not a troll did it ever occur to you to find out WHY she got into the fight?  Was she the agressor or was she being bullied?  There is stuff going on with your daughter that needs some loving attention. She needs to be heard and to know she has your support.  You two need to get to the bottom of the real problem and then do something about it before she "does a columbine" on herself like so many other teens who have been bullied mercilessly.

[Anonymous]

My daughter said she felt threatened when one of the two girls pulled a knife and threatened to slash her throat. But she has also had problems with a couple of teachers recently.

[Anonymous]

Thanks Three Springs,
  I have done those things and it has helped my niece cope some, but it still pains me to hear her so hurt by things her Mom says to her. And as far as her turning 18, I know it isn't very long.. But my sister told her if she moves out or keeps talking about independance at 18... My sister will not pay for her college and  she desperately wants to be a Nurse. My sister is so angry she plans to be a Nurse, which is just moronic to me.

 I totally see how The programing my sister recieved from straight, while I was there, has created this insanity.. So sad and really wicked scarey. The impact of mindwash programs on entire families over several generations is just bizaare.

Anyhow, Thanks for your response. I plan to just keep being supportive and someone she can trust. This is a beautiful kid who has great dreams, I plan to be there to help her whenever she needs.

[White Cracker Man]

I hate verbal abuse. My mother still verbally abuses me to this day. She is a control freak on top of that. People used to say its only verbal abuse, sticks and stones can't break your bones, etc. But it does hurt a whole damn lot.I wish your niece all the best.

[Anonymous]

I agree, verbal abuse hurts alot, especially from a parent or spouse. And you know how that treatment can make you feel like crying at any moment, like critical mass? That's what's going on, she goes to school everyday  all sad, still trying to process what the big arguement was over and if anyone asks what's wrong.. she bursts into tears. It's so sad. She is an awesome kid.  

It's sad to me how some parents treat their kids, and then expect them to flourish. Dang, if you feed all negitive to your kids all evening.. How does any parent expect them to excel at anything. This is what pushes kids into undesireable behaviors in the first place (I know, I had this response to my parents). So sad, and then I see so many come here and tell of their horrible kid who deserves to be warehoused.. It's a terrible cycle it seems this country is continueing to perpetuate. I just don't see any good come from these places, and now I am getting to see how one of these places effects the 2nd and 3rd generations, after, in a family.

[White Cracker Man]

Yep, the domino effect. If nobody stops it, it will go on and on and on for generations to come. I am glad you are trying to help your niece. Stay in her life at all costs. Like TSW said, I would try my best to have her come live with you. The sooner the better.

[jjpinks]

I just don't see any good come from these places, and now I am getting to see how one of these places effects the 2nd and 3rd generations, after, in a family.

'Nuff said! You are absolutely correct! We are just now seeing the "long-term" effects of these programs. What a mess it is too.

[Anonymous]

Pell Grants are really easy to get, you just have to fill out the FAFSA online, for one parent of the student (chose the parent with the least amount of income), and then see about getting a student loan, from the state that you live in or a Stafford Loan, remember to make sure the loan is not dependent on you the parent, but just the student.  They are the ones going to a college, and they are the ones who should get a job in the college, and they are the ones who need to take the responsibility and pay back the loan, just like all of us parents had to do at one time or another.  Good luck!

[Anonymous]

You sound like the tool on the other thread. You had no problems sending your kid to some shitpit, and I'm guessing you want him to pay for the college with money he probably won't have for a long while. Hmm. Are you going to make him pay off the TBS loan, as well? Or did the money for college that you had saved up (you DID save up some college money, didn't you?) go to the shitpit?

Either way, you're a sadistic bastard.

[Anonymous]

You call me a bastard, hmmmmmmmmmm, but I am a woman, a Mom.  you are the bastard. I guess you can call me a bitch if you want to, but I am not.  I am also giving my son a good amount of money every week to help him out, till he gets a job, or whatever. No, I don't expect him to pay for his college.  Only for the loan that he had to take out and it won't be that much.  He won't have to start paying on it till he is out of college, and hopefully will have a good job by then, totally up to him.  I am doing all that I can for him and will continue to do so.

[Anonymous]

Hi Leslie! Glad to hear things are going well.

[Anonymous]