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Hyde School, The Most Truthful Informative Post I have Seen
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-01-08 10:32:00, Anonymous wrote:
"I wrote the post about the situation I am going through with my son not wanting to go back to Hyde. Today is Sunday, and I still have no school records, his father has completely boycoted my son's decision and since he has residential custody of him I am affraid that he will come and pull him out of my house by force and take him back to Hyde. My son spoke to him last night and tried to "negotiate" telling his father that he will go back and finish this term only on the condition that his father would give me residential custody (which he is willing to) and child support (which he is not willing) and a car. . . well my ex called me later on last night (about 11:00 pm) telling me that he would agree to all that and suggested that our son and that he should be on the bus at 7:00 am for Hyde, well of course that did not happen, I am just so depressed right now because I do want my son to be happy unfortunately I do not have the resourses to put him in another private school and I know his father will not do so either especially due to the fact that he has solely funded their Hyde education and he is now facing a no refund policy.
The only place I have to offer to him right now is my local public school, which is in a suburb in NY and does not have the best reputation. My son assures me that he has the will to make this work until I can move to the next town close to me which has a much better public school system which is where he started out in the first place and he wants to finish High School there. He has not been diagnosed with any learning problems, dissabilities, as a matter of fact he is quite a bright young man, the only problem was the fact that due to a nasty separation between his father and I his father was given residential custody and he was unable in the 8 years he's had my two youngest sons to discipline them therefore he chose his "alma matter" Hyde to do so.
I am very conflicted because of my option versus his. My son as I see it and feel deep in my gut needs love, needs his mother and he has told me so. His father insists that I am giving him the "easy way out" he will not have to work, on the other hand my son tells me that what he is choosing is not the easy way, he is choosing to stay with me, who has to struggle to make ends meet and he is willing to work hard both in school and getting a job.
Even with his father agreeing to even buy a car for him, he is now telling me that his hate for that school is so strong that he doesn't really think he can go back, although his father has agreed to his demands. . .
Just pray for me, I certainly have been doing so. I have never felt so strongly about something and am willing to support my son in every way. I have his father's entire family calling me and my son pleeding for me to let him go back, I am not holding him hostage, he just is plain refusing and is threatening to either quit school altogether or run away if he is forced to go back. As far as legality I don't know if his father can do that, I know that at 16 in NY kids can legally quit without parents intervention and this is what I am affraid will happen besides the fact that if he does go back what are going to be his punishments at Hyde and the emotional scars that this may inflict him. . .
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This sounds like a pretty awful situation. I hope you are able to work out the issues with your ex husband in a way that's best for your son. I have no idea why your son doesn't want to return to Hyde. What are his reasons?
I know that Hyde is likely to say he's a quitter, and I also know that many kids who don't want to return to Hyde decide that NOT because they want to quit but because they're smart and have figured out that Hyde is a very bad setting for many kids, especially those with mental health struggles. Perhaps your son is one of the perceptive Hyde students who sees right through the Hyde propaganda and knows that he'd be better off elsewhere. I realize some kids may want to get out of Hyde for the "wrong" reasons (just to find an easier path), but I know for a fact that a number of Hyde kids are very thoughtful and just don't buy the Gauld rhetoric and brainwashing.
Good luck. This is a tough situation.
Anonymous:
Thank you for your well wishes. He has seen past all the bull and brainwhashint, as I said he has no mental problems, only anger issues with his father and although they have been addressed ad Hyde, he just tells me that he tells them what they want to hear. He does not believe in their kind of "therapy" and their methods of treating the students. He is emotionally depresesd from tat place, he lost all hs spunk being there ad it is my mission to help him find it as well as restoring his relationship with his father. I think I can do it better having him with me and going to weekly therapy sessions if necessary rather athan an FLC and/or Family Weekend here and there. I participated in one of the family weekends and it brought more anger to all of us than anything.
My son is smart and has always been very persuasive and I feel they have crushed his spirit in this place.
His father is already as I said before using all the "Hyde lingo" and calling him a quiter, etc etc and he also mentioned he is taking the easy way out, but in my view is it really the easy way out what he is taking? He knows that he has a lot of hard work ahead of him now especially to prove all those who don't believe he can make it outside of Hyde wrong, including his father. He has me and I am not an absent mother and intend to become involved in every way I can. I am local, work close to home and to his new school.
I am 100% confident that he can make it without Hyde. They are not the answer to everybody.
Thanks again.
Anonymous:
i went to hyde school where the motto amongst the student is (fake it till you make it) the school is overly cultish and i have to say that i dont know some one who graduated from there who did not regret it. i would like to start a official website showing the obvious flaws of the school and it philosopy if you would like to get involved please email me at ****@****.com
I hope some of you wil get involved and help fight hyde, i would love to get enough ppl together to get some real publicity possibly evin news coverage. its about time to shut this shame of an intitution down, and close its doors forever the last thing we need in this world is another cult
Anonymous:
i went to hyde school where the motto amongst the student is (fake it till you make it) the school is overly cultish and i have to say that i dont know some one who graduated from there who did not regret it. i would like to start a official website showing the obvious flaws of the school and it philosopy if you would like to get involved please email me at ****@*****.com
I hope some of you wil get involved and help fight hyde, i would love to get enough ppl together to get some real publicity possibly evin news coverage. its about time to shut this shame of an intitution down
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2006-01-21 02:41:00, Anonymous wrote:
"i went to hyde school where the motto amongst the student is (fake it till you make it) the school is overly cultish and i have to say that i dont know some one who graduated from there who did not regret it. i would like to start a official website showing the obvious flaws of the school and it philosopy if you would like to get involved please email me at ****@*****.com
I hope some of you wil get involved and help fight hyde, i would love to get enough ppl together to get some real publicity possibly evin news coverage. its about time to shut this shame of an intitution down"
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"If you build it, they will come." Remember that phrase in a very famous sports movie? Start the website and let us know the address of it. I know a lot of people myself who would join in. This is a good idea in order to warn potential parents and students of the harmful ways at Hyde and also for those harmed by Hyde to be able to get things off their chests. I look forward to an update from you! You have the support of many people out there, some who are afraid to come forward on this site, but who monitor it on a regular basis.
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