No, not making a threat.. Let the kid know the state can send him away to a place like this. My idea was to educate him on those possibilities, and the parent make an agreement w/ the kid to use a diffrent means than the state can. Such as counseling, volunteer opportunities for the kid (which they may see as work or just irritating), and some kind of DAY treatment programs w/i his community. But I feel if the kid doesn't realize what these places are the State can/will send him to, it may make a huge diffrence in HIS choices.
Come on guys... don't you realize by now I would personally stand in front of a car carting a child off to a RTC, or Straight like program. But facts are facts, and the mother even implied The STATE can do whatever they see fit, which is often a long term Behavior modification facility. I just wish my parents, school counselors would have educated me on what exactly that meant. I would have been alot more conscience of the choices I was making when i'd run away....
Edit to add...Man, I can't believe you thought I'd imply to threaten him with a long term behavior Mod facility! Don't you read how thourghly against it I am? But to shelter him from reality is abuse, because he will not have the ability to make INFORMED choices. The STATE will send children to places like that and the parent has no control at that point. So my idea would inform the kid and give him the knowledge to make an INFOMED choice about how far he allows his behavior to go. The worst part of finding myself in Straight was, I had no idea about these places! Knowing, would have made a huge impact on me. And knowing the STATE could take over if I got in enough trouble, woul dhave made a huge impact. Sure I heard stuff about kids getting sent places, but I had NO IDEA what that meant. Teach the kids what that means and at some point the parent may not even have control over it. I am probably one of the most against any long-term facility. I was severely abused in one for far too long ![ This Message was edited by: Withdraw on 2005-12-11 10:26 ]