If I am who you think I am then you know the whole story...others will just have to trust that I know the child and the family situation intimately. If they do not believe me, too bad. All I am hoping for is that some frustrated prospective program parents will read this forum and resist the temptation to absolve themselves of the responsiblity of parenting, by sending their child away to be raised by strangers. I want them to know that these surrogates they entrust their babies to, are even less competent than they are and it's time they admitted the truth and looked for help within their local mental health system. Most of these people have insurance that would pay a substantial amount toward counseling, and HELLO, 100K per year would pay for a lot of tutors, a local private school, and probably a 24/7 babysitter/bodyguard, if that's what they really think is necessary. Ironically, the parents involved in the subject case, both turned out to be successful, amazingly after being normal teens. I can only speak for one of them, who I know for a fact, tried drugs, sex and alcohol as a teen, but in spite of it all, managed to finish college and become a productive adult. All I can say to the parents out there, don't expect your kids to be different that you were! Stop punishing them for being normal, get to know them, and accept them for the amazing people they are!!!!