Encouraging Words for a teenager in Behavior Modification Sc

[OverLordd]

Explain then how parents can have two children that behave so very differently, even when very close in age. If all they are doing is exhibiting the bad of the parents when they are rebellious why don't both children do that? Could it be that one exhibits the good of the parents? Hmmmm, seems it comes down to choices of the child.

Favoritism, the parents focus on one child and ignore the others, I have seen it many times.

[Troll Control]

On 2005-09-12 11:20:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Explain then how parents can have two children that behave so very differently, even when very close in age.  If all they are doing is exhibiting the bad of the parents when they are rebellious why don't both children do that?  Could it be that one exhibits the good of the parents?  Hmmmm, seems it comes down to choices of the child.  "

It's inconsistency, plain and simple.  Do you actually know any family where all the kids were treated identically?  I sure don't.

That's also one of the biggest problems with the programs.  They're harsh AND inconsistent.  That's why they screw up kids so badly, just like the parents did before the programs.

[Anonymous]

so you don't believe that any teenager has ever made a destructive choice that was of their own choosing, knowing the right choice, deliberately choosing wrong, without it being the fault of the parent?  Then actually it is the grand parents fault for messing with the parents and the great grand parents fault for screwing up the grand parents and so on and so on until you get all the way back to Adam and Eve.  You just made a great arguement for the creation story and original sin!  We are now back to the devil made me do it! And no one accepting responsibility for their own mistakes.

[Anonymous]

P.E.N.1 .. While I was typing this , I thought of you. Here are some comforting words for you, and  a great book to share w/ your teen at an approiate time,

http://fornits.com/wwf/viewtopic.php?to ... &forum=7&1

[AtomicAnt]

On 2005-09-12 11:20:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Explain then how parents can have two children that behave so very differently, even when very close in age.  If all they are doing is exhibiting the bad of the parents when they are rebellious why don't both children do that?  Could it be that one exhibits the good of the parents?  Hmmmm, seems it comes down to choices of the child.  "

My sister still resents it that she was the 'bad child' only because she got caught. I did not get caught. On the outside, I was the 'good kid.' In reality, my sister was a saint by comparison.

That said, child development is very complex and the various aspects of nature vs nurture have been under debate for years. The bottom line is that it makes no difference whether the child chooses to be bad (consciously) or is simply reacting to something they've experienced, programs are still morally wrong. It is illegal to treat an adult the way they do and it should be illegal to treat anyone the way they do.

[Anonymous]

On 2005-09-10 14:33:00, P.E.N.1 wrote:

"Would anyone have any encouraging words to help a teenager get through the hard times they are enduring? If so could you please be so kind to share some. And please, Jesus Loves You does not help."

RUN LIKE HELL EVERY CHANCE THEY GET!!!!!!!!!!!

Call CPS on your parents and the facility too every time you run. Tell them why you are running.

[bandit1978]

On 2005-09-10 15:11:00, Nonconformistlaw wrote:

"If the child is still in the program...just tell him in to hang in there...stay strong....it will end...and do what ever it takes just for the sake of getting out ASAP.



AFTERWARD......



I guess....help him understand that many program survivors know how he feels and it IS possible to move on...even if at first it seems impossible. Its not easy to move on...but can and does happen. Help him have the courage to face the pain and scars left behind. Encourage him not to suppress the pain, if that's possible...



Other thoughts that I would pass along to the child if it were me in your shoes....



- Never give up on yourself

- You didnt deserve to be mistreated in a program, no matter what was going on before the program

- Only accept responsibility for what really is your fault before the program (if there is anything to really accept responsiblity for that is)....do NOT blame yourself for anything done to you while in the program

- encourage the child to get involve with things he/she enjoyed before program to help child "rediscover" his/her true individual self (to help get rid of the programmed false self)

- Encourage the child to talk about whatever he can/needs to but dont push it either - it will probably difficult if not impossible for the child to talk for quite a while...just let it be well known that its okay to talk anytime---that you'll be there for him/her

- Help child readjust to the real world---it will be a very awkward tranformation...whenever this comes up...encourage him to just keep at it, keep trying, let him talk about "feeling so different from everyone," help him find ways to develop new friendships, etc., tell him that eventually it does get easier to interract with others, it just takes time



Hope this helps  ::rainbow::

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Very well said.  I will recommend the same thing.

[Perrigaud]

This is all so interesting. It's been a while since I've been on the forum. Hmmm

[Antigen]

Hey there, Perri! Good to hear from you. How's life?

The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either, but right through every human heart.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060007761/circlofmiamithem' target='_new'>Alexander Solzhenitsyn

[Troll Control]

Encouraging words:  Run like hell and don't look back.  And whatever you do, don't go home because your parents don't know how to help you.