To the parents who are looking at emotional growth programs on this board for their child:
Don't believe anything you read. The only way to confirm your suspicions (or otherwise) is to go to the school and visit. Even then, keep inquiring the staff for more information. There are good programs out there, but you must search and choose wisely. Also, consult professional help. The professionals among the professionals one might say. Unfortunately, there are many doctors out there who simply do not know what their doing. It IS important to trust your gut feelings at times, but also be aware of a personal bias you may have concerning sensitive issues. Third party feedback from an outside source is always a good idea. These programs and the process of sending your kids away IS A LASTING IMPRESSION and will likely stay with them in one influence or another for the rest of their life. This is not a light decision, and parents I cannot emphasize this point enough. I understand that some parents have reached "the end" and are extremely concerned for their children and have no other avenue to pursue. I sympathize with those out there, and once again, recommend professional help. These forums should be used only as a resource, and as such, must be read with criticism and skepticism.
I would advise against listening to one side of the graduates (or pre-maturely expelled students) at these programs. They are likely to be biased, and must be understood accordingly. Read carefully, but do not base your decision on what they have to say. It is good and well to be concerned about potential abuse and illegal actions your children face there, but also understand that these programs are designed to be fairly last resort options. Medical treatment allows for certain things, and these ARE (or at least supposed to be) trained professionals. Once again, it is wise to learn as much as you can about these programs you will prospectively be sending your children to. The treatment WILL likely be intense, and with a high level of emotional development. Once again, there is probably a high level of risk for a variety of things to happen. Human beings are each wired differently and by sending your children there, you should not be looking for a "fix" for anything. Therapy is designed to do exactly that, promote healthier behavior, but not guarantee anything. In addition, depending on the program, they may also demand a high level of participation from the PARENT as well. Parents, these programs are as much of a commitment on your part as well as your child.
Lastly, to address the flamers, rebellion promoters, and unsatisfied ex-students of these programs. Please address the topic in a respectable manner. You are posting to offer your opinion and concern. The people who read these forums are potentially people in troubled times and are seeking advice. You do not assist in their pursuit by offering inaccurate or severely biased opinions. Let us please be aware of our actions.
Now, I will offer my own personal opinions on this school in particular.
Carlbrook is probably one of the better schools out there. The website will present the program as a college preparatory school. Academics at this school are not lacking and are comparable to other well run schools out there. In addition, they have an excellent college advising program there, and will assist in helping your children not only gain acceptance into college, but potentially some of the best universities out there.
This is an EMOTIONAL GROWTH boarding school with a high degree of therapy. Students have "group therapy" 3 times a week.
Carlbrook requires that your child attends a wilderness assessment program prior to his/her arrival. This may take three weeks or longer (most likely longer).
I recommend you visit, and speak with the staff. The students there are well treated and treated fairly. There are minor inconsistencies at best, and overall most parents find the experience to be a positive one.
The length of stay at Carlbrook is anywhere in between 14-19 months on average. This is a STANDARD stay, and does not include possible extensions.
More information can be obtained that website and contacting people there.
I believe the website is
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