you are going to be a lot less damaged & more philosophical about it than if you went in for something minor at 14 and were locked away for your entire childhood.
I think I should probably chime in and contest this. I did my time at a childrens home before I went to RMA. and with the exception of about a school-year respite between the two places while living with my father (and what a joy that was, let me tell you

) I spent my entire teenage years, from 14 to 19, in some facility.
I dunno, I think I can be pretty philosophical about it. I'm often surprised when people tell me my life has been hard. (I prefer to think of it as "interesting".)
Im not taking this comment personally, not at all. I just think that even though formative years can really affect a person, that doesn't mean they have lost the potential to unfuck themselves.
Nothing against you, my2cents. You've always come across as insightful in my book. I guess my point is that, as misanthropic as I can be sometimes, I've learned to have a bit more faith in the human soul than I used to. People can be tough motherfuckers, capable of exorcising even the most formidable demons. (just ask my fiancee.)
Anyone who has been through something traumatic and difficult should be considered a survivor, regardless of their opinion on said experience. The only prerequisite is that we are all still here... because there are many who are not.
So.. a shout out for all who made it... and also for all who did not, (for WHATEVER reason.) :cheers: