if your familier with original poster story you would see how wrong you are.
she never says why she doesnt have ANY custody, other than a passing reference to some psych evaluations.
her kid lives on the other side of the country with dad for a few years. dad determines that the kid needs help so he puts him in an expensive sleep away camp of a school where they are gonna be sure that the kid has his limits and he better stay inside them. for some reason on these forums, everyone assumes that the custodial parent has not now for the first time in his life the kid has no control over the situation (good), and when he screws up there is a real consequence.
now since mom in noncustodial, she isnt an authority figure, and the kid a perfect angel to her.
what happened with this woman is that the kid got on the phone and told her that dad only out his own son in this school to get revenge on her.
that is so typical of what these kids do to manipulate divorced parents, what isnt typical and very disconcerting is that the mom believes it and starts talking about rescuing the kid one way or another. the child wins again right? the manipulation pays off right? wrong.
at this school the childs conversation is being monitored by another kid who knows the situation, and has some experience with brats. he ends the conversation.
if what i've said is true, and assuming that the kid really is a brat who is throwing his life away at 17, isnt the dad doing the right thing by taking him out of whatever negative enviornment hes in and sticking him somewhere where he will hopefully become a man?
this kid is making his own food, doing his own laundry, and completing his school assighments probably for the first time in his life.
youre gonna tell me contact with the mom already determined by the courts to be an unfit parent who wants to rescue the kid isnt undermining Tx!