You can make a dog obedient by beating the crap out of him when he does something you don't like, or doesn't follow orders.
You can win a dog obedience, even a difficult one, by being a compassionate and wise "pack leader" and being worthy of that obedience. You make it in the dog's best interests to follow your lead because it's good for the dog, not because you're making it bad for the dog to refuse you.
I have no respect for people who whip or kick dogs.
Same applies with horses.
And children.
I have no respect for people who beat, starve or kick dogs, or horses, or children.
Children are intelligent, sentient beings. One can get the same effect of beating, starving or kicking them by abusing them with words and punishments that wear down the spirit. A horse or a dog can't interpret it all as punishment if it's too subtle for the animal to connect the bad experience to your displeasure. A child can connect the dots. It makes it easier to whip a child until you break his spirit without leaving many visible marks.
I have no respect for people who beat children until they break---whether the beating is blatant or more subtle.
Breaking a dog, a horse, or a child is a cheap and shoddy shortcut for incompetents who lack the skill, patience, and compassion to win the animal or child's respect. And it leaves the dog, horse, or child damaged and with much less capability and potential than if the training was done *competently*---unless at some point someone competent goes back and expends twice as much effort as would have been required to do the job right in the first place, cleaning up your mess.
"One who cares"---Give yourself all the airs you want. Breaking horses or dogs works, too---but taking that shortcut just makes you another ham-handed incompetent.
You're an idiot, and worse, you have no idea that there's anything inherently wrong or inferior about your methods. You are too much of a fool to know how very much you don't know. I wouldn't trust you with a puppy, a colt, or a hamster, much less a child.
The same with *any* moron who uses any kind of confrontational "care" when supportive care would accomplish a better and more lasting result. It just takes more work than the cheap and shoddy quick fixes the programs substitute for quality care.
Timoclea
