Thank you for answering my questions, but I have some more for you.
You said, "I hid everything, all the time, and still money and items came up missing? What if I told you I had daily progress reports set up with her teachers and she still continued to cut class and fail? That she didn't care anymore. What if i told you that I did work on assignments with her and try to help her with her grades?"
What if I told you that I did those things too? What if I also told you that 99% of teenagers do those same things to some degree as well. Yet, there is a very small percentage of those whose parents feel that "shipping the kid off" will help and that the kids are going to learn from these mistakes as they mature.
You said, "These problems are all associated with behavior related to taking drugs"
Wrong! I wasn't an addict. Hell, when my parents put me away, I was all of 13 years old! I don't think that I have ever seen a 13 year old addict in my life!
You said, "She is not afraid to talk about GT, we have had many discussions. I even told her that I would pull her from the program if there was anything she felt she couldn't tell me, she understands this. She is adament that there is no abuse. She has no bruises, she doesn't come home upset, but more like the little girl she used to be before the drugs. This program is close, there would be talk about things going on, but there is none."
Have you not listened to what these people are saying to you? They are telling you that as long as she is in the program, she CAN NOT tell you anything negative about it for fear of being punished for it. I wish that you would listen to people that have a little more experience with this than you do.
You said, "And also that you were put in your programs against your will and now still hold on to the grudge."
I am speaking for myself only here when I say that yes, I am still hurt when I think about my parents sending me to the place that they put me at the age of 13. I am now 34 years old and have put alot of the pain behind me but yet whenever I try to ask my parents how they came to the conclusion that I needed to be in a "program", I get brushed off. I am telling you here and now that no matter how bad my kids may act when they are teenagers, I will never NEVER put them away anywhere!
Sorry, I am a little emotional tonight.
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