Me too.
It's amazing how strong our family bonds are. It took me a good many years and a number of clear demonstrations to finally come to terms w/ the fact that my family are no friends of mine.
Don't get me wrong. They're all decent people who lead decent lives and who just about anybody would be lucky to call a friend.
It's just that, if I try to fit into
my family, the only place for me is that of a Program screw up. You know how it is. If I accomplish anything, it's because something sunk in during the 2 years I was in the Program. If things go badly, it's because I split.
When my husband got chicken pox as an adult it effected his kidneys. He was very sick and we didn't know if he was going to live. So, forgetting myself and thinking it was a reasonable thing to do, I called my mom for a little moral support. Next day, she called me back and told me she'd found foster care or some such for my kids and told me to pack up and get on a bus so I could check into treatment. This was around 9 or 10 years after the whole program thing. She'd never met my husband, except on our wedding day. He'd never been an addict or unemployed or anything. But she assumed, based on the fact that I split the Program and the fact that he had kidney problems, that we must be junkies. I shit you not!
I wish it were different. Of course, I'm also glad things are not worse. We could have been born in Sri Lanka, for example, or Nicaragua or something. I'm a big fan of not letting anything weigh me down. But sometimes it helps a lot just to know that somebody out there really, really gets it, ya' know?
...to disarm the people (is) the best and most effective way to enslave them...
-- George Mason