On 2004-12-14 14:42:00, Evets Droffats wrote:
"Is letting go really as hard as it seems? Does it depen on the person? The situation? Your ability to turn negatives into a positive? Is anger resentment and vengeance the answer? Even if it is all that you know or have been exposed to? Can we give love if we have never felt love? When do we decide to focus an ourselves....move on and proceed into the future? Closure is a powerful word. But what does it really mean?"
It depends on all of the above. Anger and vengance isn't the answer, but vigilance is the answer in making sure that history doesn't repeat itself. You've probably heard the "abused becomes the abuser" - it carries over into many other aspects - but it doesn't have to be that way.
"Closure" has become somewhat of a pop-psych term. "Closure" is what you want to make it. There is no ceremony or ritual that you have to perform. When you're ready to close the door on the past, you do it - plain and simple. You do it in your own time.
"Love" is another one of those vague words. No one can describe it... you'll know it when you feel it. I hope you will feel it.
Wishing you peace.