does residential really help and which one is good
Yes it really helps, and almost every one is good. The programs people talk about on fornits are almost all out of business for many years. The average poster on fornits was in treatment 25 years ago. Treatment programs have evolved and now there are options to satisfy the needs of all parents. There's only a handful of posters here, and go ahead and ask them what year they were 'abused' and how exactly they were 'abused', the rest is just scare tactics. 99.99% of kids who went through treatment are doing great, the 00.01% that do not do well end up posting here. But even some of them end up doing well, for example Manne Bonney lives a life of fun and sun, beaches and boating.
Don't listen to this person.. be safe. I don t know about all these new programs. Are there good ones I don t know.. But this post is not realistic in any way, and it can lead you to believe that all programs are great. This isn't true.
yes, many of the programs have evolved. They have no choice. Society would not put up with their bullshit anymore. These programs, which have evolved however, are still based on the same foundational principles, which means that even though they may not be so overtly damaging, they don t work and will waste your time.
It is true, that unless you put your kid in a program in some other country, the danger is far less then once it was, and there is very little chance that your daughter will experience anything like what is in most posts on this thread, but still, if you love yyour kid caution is advisable.
Something to take into account that people do not very often, is this:
These older programs- they were in a time period where what is considered domestic abuse today, was once considered discpline. Kids actually walked to school back then, and climbed trees, and fought eachother, rather then go on play dates, and fight in video games.
In no way whatsoever, am I trying to take away from what people experiecned 25 years ago, but I will say, that they were better prepared for it.
Your kid, most kids today, would lose their fucking minds in a day at one of these old centers... but these ne places though not as harsh can still be harmful to them.
This poster attempting to set you at ease, and make you think that everyone here are the only people who had trouble in programs, neglects to mention all the people who are dead or in jail.
I know of young people who have went to programs in my area, very recently with no results. They just would have been better off not going.
Paul
PS My knowledge is very limited on brand new programs, as in recently made from the ground floor up.