i am the real Martha,i come here looking for help,you have to be a complete moron not to see my state of desperation and i am disrespected and mocked by more than one person and someone steals my identity and posts in my name!!!!
thank you to the people who responded in an appropiate manner.
i feel so lost right now,i wish i had the money to hire an educational consultant to guide me...
Educational consultants can get paid by the programs they refer to and they don't have to tell you (this is common practice, almost customary in this industry). In that sense, you can't trust them or anybody who might be referring you to a program. There is no guarantee with so called "IECA" members either, as that organization does not enforce (and has no way to enforce) it's "ethical guidelines".
I would recommend concentrating less on the drug usage and more on what is up with your son that is causing his erratic behavior. A large part of growing up is being rebellious and doing crazy things. I was rebellious and did crazy things when I was growing up, probably more so than your son, but I grew out of it eventually. It's a teen's way of seperating from an adult and demonstrating independence. There are healthy ways of doing that and there are unhealthy ways. The key is not to force things, but provide opportunities for your son to express his independence in a healthy manner. What are his interests?
In any case, do not panic!
You might want to check out and read this link:
http://www.peele.net/lib/panic.htmlDrug use among teens is VERY common. Out of those who use (or even abuse) drugs, very very few have the "problem" later in life. The idea that drug use is a "progressive disease" is fallacious. For the most part, it's often a coping mechism for an underlying issue. Treating the symptom by enforcing an identity of "drug addict" does nothing but create a self fulfilling and self destructive prophecy.
A final note: please understand that this board is for the most part unmoderated. This means anybody can post here. Some are bitter at their parents who sent them to abusive programs and some are industry members trying to scare you out of here. Anything is possible. Fornits is a "biker bar". Read here for a brief introduction to this forum:
viewtopic.php?f=22&t=26332&start=0&st=0&sk=t&sd=aIf you find it difficult to talk here, or find yourself too offended, there are moderated sections of this forum where you can ask questions without fear of being attacked, such as the
facilities questions and answers forum and the
CAN forum. There is also a moderated forum on
this site where you can ask questions.
