Oh, get real, TSW! Now and again? Please!
I've just started reading this thread. I note that it's grown like Kudzu, which usually means a flame war. Everybody loves a brawl though, don't we chillins?
Seriously, though, to the original poster, I agree with TSW. Matter of fact, I've been talking along this same theme w/ a couple of friends of mine just lately. Seems that none of us have ever been able or willing to live a conventional life. Don't know how much of that is reactionary and how much is causual or if it even has anything to do w/ the Program at all. But, however we came to this point, we're all mid 30's to 40's with "no visible means of support" or at least no simple answer to the question "so, what do you do for a living?"
And even now, that still makes some people very nervous and suspicious. Me? I must be a madam cause I live in Charleroi, right? My other friend, obvious dope dealer, right? Those are the assumptions. The reality is a whole lot less colorful.
I'd suggest you turn him onto Craig's List. I've found so many interesting gigs and people there. It's a bit more risky than your conventional vocations and avocations, of course. But then again, taking the conventional course guarantees, not only risks, doom to stifling mundacity and hopelessness.
Or, if you'd rather hear it from an accomplished statesman and celebrated hero....
"Find out what they want to do and advise them to do it." -- Winston Churchill when asked how to give advice to grown children.